THE HOSTAGE MIND In the prison of my own mind By OWOTA A Y ***** PUBLISHED BY Owota AY on smashwords Copyright 2012 by owota ay Discover other books by OWOTA A Y at smashwords.com The Right-Choice Life ‘when the decisions you make become your GOD’ My Memory Life ‘Seven spiritual ways to get out of STAGNATION’ The Moral Power ‘The spirituality of a good SUCCESS’ The casino of life’10 Choices you will make to win the glorious jackpot’ ***** Smashwords License Statement Thank you for downloading this free book, it remains the copyrighted property of the author, and may not be reproduced, copied and distributed for commercial or non-commercial purposes. If you enjoyed this book, please encourage your friends to download their own copy at smashwords.com, where they can also discover other works by this author. Thank you for your support. ***** INTRODUCTION Be an imitator of God as dear children (Ephesians 5:1). This is the only person you are permitted to be an imitator of, as a child of God imitate God in everything you do, what will God do, if H e is the one in this situation, circumstance or predicament. You never allow fear of any kind to hold you HOSTAGE., because God will never allow that to be in His mind. The thought He has of you is good not evil to bring you to an expected end. Be conscious of the God in you, understand that He will never hold you hostage. He makes everything beautiful in his time. Paul planted, Apollo waters, it is God that gives increase. “Where there is no vision the people perish...” you must discover a God’s vision for your life, if every seed bring fort his own kind, then you must bring out yours too, which is a God, “don’t you know that you are the children of the most high, that God is in you?” the problem is the recognition of the God in you, and I am telling you, in that God lies the vision for your life. You must recognise Him. Take a good look around your life, who is holding you hostage, who is fighting you, who is competing with you, why do you think less of yourself, why do you steal that which God have blessed you with, why do you want to be better than your neighbour at all cost, why are you afraid of failing, why are you afraid of becoming poor. Let me tell you what the problem is, you refuse to recognise the God in you, because you are afraid to love. All the problems you are faceing is as a result of a wrong vision, you allow the illusion of what you see around to dictate your life, forgetting in the beginning it was not so, let us read what happen in the beginning when man lost his vision, and replaced it with fear, and that fear held him hostage. “And they heard the voice of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day; and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. And the Lord God called unto Adam, and said unto him, where are you? And Adam said I heard your voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself. And the Lord God said, who told you that you are naked... (Genesis 3:8-11). Adam lost his vision, that was why God says “my people perish because they have no vision”, not until you recognise the God in you and reconnect your vision back to His, you will continue in fighting the illusion of what your eyes is seeing, the dictate of your senses and the egocentric system of the world. When Adam lost his vision, he lost also his focus, potential and abilities, he lost knowledge of who he was, forgetting he was a product of a divine mind, a spirit and he became afraid and death came in. I am asking you again to look around, why are you afraid of the illusion of your own vision?, because it is what you want to see, your vision. You saw that you are naked, who told you that you are naked?, let me tell you, it is because you refuse to recognise the God in you, take a look at the bird they don’t try to fly they fly, the plant doesn’t try to grow they grow, the fish don’t try to swim, they swim, the sun is not trying to shine, it shines, and you, you don’t have to struggle to achieve your dream, you don’t have to try to live your potential and purpose, but when you do , check whose vision are you seeing, God or yours. Because one of them is holding you hostage. Chapter one THE HABIT MIND How I became a prisoner What is happening to me…for the past weeks now, the event that happened at Judis bar has been on my mind. Today is Monday and I haven’t finished the sloggate project report…oh God what is happening to me, plaese help me, I want myself back. Listen, what you are conscious of at all time reveals your reality. Pure consciousness creates pure potential, and pure potential is the father of creativity. Man is always distracted by event of no value, so this event or experiences is what he places his mind on all day, thinking and asking himself questions; who did she think she is, how can he do that to me, why will she disappoint me that way, I am going to deal with him, I will show her who I am, she treat me like a dirt, and so on all day… Man reality becomes what he is conscious of, knowingly or unknowingly, he is becoming what he thinks, instead of him spending time focusing on what he want, he end up thinking the negative events of his yestaerady and the unrealized vision of his future. Listen…what do you want out of life is in you, focus on it, be conscious of it, think of it at all times, and your consciousness will creates to you the potentiality of getting it, so also is the event of your past, you feel depressed because your consciousness is giving you the results of your negative thoughts. Man is a believe made being; it is to him according to his faith. So a Godless man is a dead man, he is an hostage in his own mind, waiting for his end with pain and grief. God says, “come unto me all you that labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest” this proves that, what man need in his life is a God. To be spiritually minded is life and peace, but to be physically minded is death. Let your mind be on God at all time and your consciousness will bring life and peace to you. It is also the same when you mind is on physical things, your consciousness will bring to you its results, pain and depression, the worries of life. So God is all you need to get the best of your life and that project done. Chapter two A DUST OR A SPIRIT The man within I was a five years old child, the first time I saw a dead person, I asked my mummy, mummy is that not uncle Joe lying there, why did you say he is dead, is that not his body? My mum said, “Yes that is your uncle Joe, but he is not going to get up from that bed, he has gone to be with the Lord”. I ask myself who them am I seeing, and who has gone to be with the Lord. It is indeed a spiritual reality. In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth, and the earth was without form and void, and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the spirit of the Lord move upon the face of the waters. The spirit of the lord is same as the Holy Spirit, the presence of the Lord God, who the Lord Jesus promise man, saying I will send to you another comforter, the Holy Spirit the spirit of truth. And God said, let there be light and there was light. And God saw the light was good. This was how God created the earth, when his Spirit moves, He said and saw. First He says, then He saw, what he says, proof his belief. If you record down what you say and thought the whole day you will understand what I am saying. The life you are experiencing right now, all proof your belief. That is the same way man has been using to create his life experiences. The life you are experiencing is your spiritual reality either good or bad, poverty or wealth. Happy or unhappy, depressed or in joy, worried or in sorrow, you created it yourself, it is the sum total of your belief, it is from this beliefs that you say what you say consciously or unconsciously. Man spend most of his days thinking of the negative event of yesterday, thinking what he should have done, and why he did that, or what he didn’t do, and why and why. The more you spend your time thinking of your past negative events this thought will automatically create your experience and this is what you have been saying. Because that is what you belief, you are not different from God, the way God created the earth, is the same way you create your life experiences, it all depend on what you are saying. And God said, let us make man in our image, after our likeness; and let them have DOMINION...And everything was very good, And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground and breathe into his nostrils the breath of life and man became a living soul. Genesis 2:7 This was how man became alive, without the breath of life from God; man is nothing but a dust of the ground. Go to the cemetery and check the casket of the dead and see what it contains, a dust from the ground or a living soul? This is the truth. Now you know the real you is your spirit; the God in you, not your body. This spirit is from God, it is the presence of God in you, and he is your life not that physical body of yours. So to be spiritual minded is life and peace but to physically minded is death. Come let me show you how you can reconnect back to your spirit the God in you so that you can have back your ruler- ship over the earth. Chapter three A VISION TO LIFE The secret of accessing the unlimited realm of glory And it shall come to pass if you shall hearken diligently into the voice of the Lord thy God to observe and to do his entire commandment which I command thee this day...Deuteronomy 28:1-13. “Hearken to the voice of God is divine guidance”. You have to learn to listen to the voice of God to access into an unlimited realm of glory, because God is always speaking, letting you know his ways, what he want you to do in other for you to live your full potential on earth. The voice of the Lord is the master key to the dimension of his glory in the life of man. Man needs vision to achieve his dreams, and with clarity of his vision he finds his way to his dream and in this dream lays his glory. But this vision can only be revealed to him when he learns to listen to divine direction from the God in him. Anything that hinders him from hearing the voice of divine direction from his spirit is an enemy. This direction must come from God, and not his sense or his flesh, for the flesh fight against the spirit and it is the spirit that gives life. “For to be carnally (fleshly) minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life everlasting”. So there is a God in man, who leads your way, that was why Isaiah 48:17 says, “Thus says the Lord the only one of Israel, I am the Lord thy God which teaches you to profit, which leads you by the way that you should go”. Anything short of that is death, because God never intended man to die. For death is not the truth. The day man chooses to lead his own way through his sense, he unconsciously dismisses the leading of his God which blur his vision, and automatically death was invoked, not by God but by man himself. He became an hostage to his own mind. In other for man to revoke death in his life he needs the leading of God and it is in the leading of God that he is guaranty in living a purposeful life, a life of peace, joy and happiness, a guaranteed access to GLORY. Chapter four AN ORPHAN In my own mind There is still no difference, when is this going to change, I have tried to change it for the past 10years, but it won’t change, life is not fair, and what did I do to deserve this, yes! I was born an orphan and grow up among the street survivals, but that wasn’t my choice, it was the choice I found myself in, I don’t want it anymore, I want to be better than this, I want to move forward and stop moving in a circle living the life of my yesterday, whenever my eyes see the reality of today. Please God help me, I know you can hear me. Character only manifest and discover itself through the environment, whenever life has pushed you to a state of pain and frustrations, a state of mental paralyses; it is time you make a decision. The outer condition of your life will always be found to be harmoniously related with your inner state, a decision to change the inner state will automatically change the outer condition. Your inner state is the chamber from which you draw your decisions, expectation, emotion and thought process, that operate for or against you, so “as you think in your heart so you are” change you thinking and you change your life, when you allow the negative reports which you see and hear to influence your thinking, then it is you who has given your thought to the dictates of what is happening around you to determine how you live your life. This only proves that you lack knowledge of who you really are, listen! You are not an orphan, the mental consciousness of the word orphan in your mind has associated itself with misfortune, lack, dependent, defeat and abandon, but it is not the truth, it is only an illusion you create yourself when you believe the dictates of this world. The truth is that, the condition you found yourself is not because of what you are, you are a product of a divine mind, you’re a spiritual being with a purpose, and you are here to manifest that purpose. You’re in that state because, you lack knowledge of who you really are, not until you get yourself connected to God; you will continue to live in the lost path of your inner state. Forget about the negative events of yesterday, today is the most important day in your life, it is a present given to you by God to change your future, that is why it is called faith. But when you live today in the memory of yesterday’s event, the result will be today. Your decision is to change today, allow the way, the truth and the life to lead you, he is right there in you, in your spirit, talking to you right now, asking you to let Him be in control, so that he can bring out the best in you and attract the best to you, so that you can live your purpose on earth, when you start serving your purpose you will see how beautiful and wonderfully God made you and His love for you, then you will understand the true meaning of an orphan. Chapter five BE STILL! AND SEE The picture that stole your vision I know I had a vision, and a goal I wanted to achieve and a life I want to live but, it has been three month and I realized that I have left the path of my vision, Lord what did I do wrong, where did the life I am living now came from, how did this happen? Who stole my vision? Not until you make the unconscious conscious, he that stole your vision will always success, the devil I said, came to steal kill and destroyed, once he can get control of your mind, then he is in charge of your life. He steals your vision by replacing the picture of your vision by what you can see through your senses, not what you can see through your vision, and because he has taken control of your mind, you cannot differentiate your conscious thought from the unconscious ones, in simple term, you are not aware of your present hour, the picture in your mind, is the state of the economic; the story your banker told you about the state of your account and your mortgage; the situation at home that your wife told you; the issues in the e-news about the latest gist; the disappointment in your business deal that your partner told you; the school fees you cannot pay due to lack of fund in your account. All this are ways your easily lose the picture of your vision. Man is a product of a divine Mind, he is a spiritual being that manifest himself in the physical realm, his spiritual state of mind is the reality of his physical state either he knows it or not. What you think about is you and that has created your reality. Change the picture of your mind and you change your belief. Change your belief and you change your life. If what you belief is what the system of the world is telling you, then get ready to manifest its results, because you choose to believe them consciously or unconsciously, that is how the mind works. Get control of your mind, by practising present awareness consciousness. Knowing what you do at all time, living your life in the present rather than the negative images of your memory. Take control of your life, because it is the present that will produce the future, so he who controls his present takes care of his future, meaning, that vision of yours has to be in your present consciousness at all times for its reality to manifest it in the future. All you have to do is to get connected to God, the father of all divine and creative mind; the way, the truth and the life. This connection will make your vision God’s vision and protect it and bring it into manifestation effortlessly. Chapter six DIVINITY IN DISGUISE The unconscious law that process my reality The continues expression of happiness and the progressive realization of worthy goal is success, I know that success includes good health, energy and enthusiasm for life, fulfilling relationship, creative freedom, emotional and psychological stability, a sense of well-being and peace of mind. Even with experience of all these things, man will remain unfulfilled unless he nurtures the seed of the divinity inside of him. In all reality man is divinity in disguise. The unfolding of the divinity in us is what life interprets to us as reality. And for this to come into reality there are laws you follow knowingly or unknowingly. The process by which the un-manifest becomes the manifest is called Law. For you to manifest anything in life you must follow the law, it is also the process by which the observer became the observed or the process which the dreamer manifest the dream. It is this process that man misunderstood, and is the root of all his problem, instead of man feeding his mind with the pictures of what he want, he rather feeds his mind with the pictures of this world, that which the world shows him, and he called that truth. Saying seeing is ‘’believing” and that eventually became his reality. The man that says he is poor has a poverty mentality, the lady that is always sick has an unhealthy mentality, and the guy that is rich has a wealthy mentality. Your mind is your board room where you made the decision of what you want to be have or do. That was why the bible says you should guide your heart with all diligent for out of it are the issues of life. The source of all creation is the spirit, the process of creation is the spirit in motion (the mind) and the object of creation is the physical universe, which includes your body. Three component of reality are the spirit, who is the observer, the mind, which is the process of observing, and the body which the observed. You (spirit) – your mind – your reality (your body). Allowing the God in you which is your spirit to feed your mind with what the word of God says concerning you, will bring to you your expected (prosperous) end. That is why God says that the will that He has for you is good and not evil to give to you a hope and a future. God has a will for you, and not until your spirit come to play with God’s will, your life will be control by the issues of this world and you will think that is the truth. Look around, is this the life you really want or the hope and the future God has planned for you. If not, change it, get your spirit connected back to His source, and let the hope and the future He has planned for you take its course. Chapter seven THE WORLD OF BELIEFS Saying it the way you want it to be What did you say? I think, I am getting sick, I feel all the symptoms Why are you saying that to yourself…? Because the last time I visited the doctors he told me the symptoms of this sickness and that is what I am feeling right now… Let me tell you a true life story. There was this time Jesus entered a town, as usual doing his father’s business, a captain of a army approached him pleading with him, saying one of his servant is sick and is at home waiting to die ,Jesus take a look at him and said okay, take me to him, surprisingly this captain said, “I am not worthy that you should come to my house but you should speak the word and my servant shall be healed, because I am a man under authority, having soldiers under my command, and when I said to one go he goes, and to another come and he comes and to my servant do this and he does it”. When Jesus heard him, He marvelled, and told those following him, this man has great faith. And concerning his servant, He told him be it done according to your faith and immediately his servant was healed. That is why I told you “without faith you cannot please God” it is a faith world. If you think or know that you love God them you must live your life by faith, knowing that the language of God is a faith language, and that was what he gave you from the day you said you believe in him. It was faith that propelled you to believe, knowing in your spirit that there is GOD. FAITH is all you need if God is all it takes. So anything that fights your faith is your enemy. The work of the enemy is to kill, to steal and to destroy…your FAITH. So in this world you don’t live by sight you live by faith. Holding in your heart what you want from God at all times and never minding what the circumstance is showing you. Because, “it is to you according to your faith” What do you think, what do you say, what are your imagination, will determine your way of life. So those symptoms are not real, they are what the doctor made you to believe, you can change them now by saying what you want your health to be, and not what the symptoms want you to say, believe me, it is all according to your beliefs. Chapter eight INNER-STRUCTION A guide to your unending progress Honey, what are we going to do, the Jonas has moved to a next town, and everyone is moving away, businesses are closing down, there are no jobs anymore, don’t you think we should move to the next city, they said things are better there. Wait! Listen, who is complaining, who is analysing what is happening around, I bet you it is your senses. The conformity to what is happening around you will only attract to you more issues, consciously or unconsciously and you will not see solution to the challenges. Running away too might not be the best solution, when you are only taking that action because others are doing the same or there is fear involve. Then Isaac sow in that land and receive in that same year an hundred fold; and the Lord blessed him. And the man waxed great and went forward until he became very great. Genesis 26:12-13 You have been called to a life of progress and advancement by God, anything short of that is your own choice of life, not the life God has planned for you before the foundation of the world. Your journey is one direction, upward and forward only, but it all depends on whose instruction are you following, whose report are you believing and who is leading you. Irrespective of the economic situation in the world, or where you are living, you can still prosper and make progress. Isaac waxed great, went forward and grew until he became very great; he made progress and became successful in every area of his life in that same land where everyone left for Egypt, because God’s instruction was his only guide. Isaac is a man that has chosen to be led by God, through faith in his spirit, so he saw what others couldn’t see, and listen to what others couldn’t hear, “the word of the Lord”, and he got what others couldn’t get “prosperity”. You have to make that same choice today, live your life according to the word of God, and not according to your senses or your environmental situations, and when you do, your obedience is going to pay off, just like Isaac’s. Learn to listen to the spirit of God in you for direction, whatsoever he tells you to do. Do it. Listening to the dictates of this world, will only thwart your progress in life, it will make you to doubt God’s word, and where you find doubt you will you find indecision and indecision is the twin brother of fear, and whatsoever you are afraid of will only torment you. This is all it takes for the enemy to kill you” your fears”. Isaac believe God and he was blessed, listen! God is talking to you, follow his in-struction and you shall prosper, let the Holy Spirit guide you in the affairs of your life, because that is the only way to your unending progress in life. Chapter nine MY BODY! MY SPIRIT Until man ceases to be dust he will be eaten by the devil I am tired of this life, there is nothing I haven’t tried, but it is not working, I rather cause the day I was born, than to go on living like this, where is the life I was promised, I woke up every day to find out that I have been entrapped in this world, just to survive and not to live my dream, oh Lord, what is the problem. Help me, please help me. Then the Lord God formed man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the spirit of life and man became a living being. (Genesis 2:6) These are the two entity that made up man; the dust of the ground and the spirit of life. But, without the spirit of life man is nothing but a dust. The dust is of this world and the spirit of life is of God. The dust of the ground is our body while the spirit of life is the God in man. The body does not know the things of God; he is concerned with the things of this world, whereas the spirit in man knows the things of God, because he is of God. The body uses sensetical knowledge to influence itself, while the spirit in man applies spiritual knowledge to influence both the body and the spirit of life. This is the reason why God warn man not to conform to the system of this world, because if he does, he will reap the result which is death. It all depend on what you are seeing, are you seeing what the body want or what your spirit want, whichever one you see and re-act ,the result only tells you who is in charge of your life, it tells you if you are walking according to the dictates of the dust, or the according the word of God. Going to church doesn’t make you spiritual, claiming to be a good Christian doesn’t make you holy. Lying, gossiping, backbiting, hating your neighbour, taking that which doesn’t belong to you, refusing to help those in need when you have the what it takes to help them, are all characteristic of the dust, not until you cease to the dust, you are nothing but FOOD for the devil. Look around, what will it profit you, if you gain the whole world, and on the day you die, you end up in a casket, with nothing but your body made from dust? Mind you, after death comes judgement, and the judgement for the body is dust shall you return, but what about your spirit, that which gives life to the body, have you thought about it, please do now, God is talking to you, cease to be dust, and live according to the word of God. So what you go through now in your life, is as a result of your belief, you thoughts are of a dust, and you live your life according to the dictate of your ego, and the ego will only stave your spirit the God in you, and since that is where joy, peace and prosperity dwells, that is where you can live life with a purpose, and that purpose is the will of God. And the will of God is the God in you. When you give your life to God, through Christ Jesus, you are different, you are dead to the flesh, yet you live in the spirit, it is not you that live anymore, but the Christ in you. He is now your all in all, you are not your own, you have been bought with a price. He promise to guide and protect you as long as you live your life according to his word. Then the devil cannot eat you. So stop to be dust for that is the devil’s food. Chapter ten MY FEELINGS The creative side of my perception I have been on this pain for as long as I can remember, I have seek medical help yet I suffer this pain and my heart refuses to give up, I know the economic situation is not favourable yet I feel it more than my colleagues, I feel the pain of the job more than you all, my body is so weak for myself to carry, I cannot be the only one to do this for others. Lord help me, I know you are hearing me. Not until you change that thought that is creating the feelings of pain, unhappiness, weakness, dullness, and defeats, the feelings will always reoccur. A feeling is not what you hear, see or experienced. Feeling occur as a result of the information you receive into your thought, and the way you perceive it. It was the information that came with the feeling, but the most important aspect of this is your perception concerning the information. And perception is not the information, the perception is you. It is all me, it is not the source of the information; you will always get information as long as you are living on earth. What you read, watch on TV, see in you environment, go through in your place of work and believe ,are all sources of information to your life, what you did when you receive such information (positive or negative) into your thought is left to you, and when you perceive it, negatively or positively, it will creates its feelings for you. That is how you got that sad feeling. Consciously or unconsciously it will produce its feelings. For example if I says to you that I like the way you talk, you have a sense of humour, you’re kind, and loving to be with, it was first, an information, it is not a feeling, it became a feeling to you when you receive the information into your thought and perceive it, it was your perception that create the feelings, and you are happy, worm, welcome and free. Those same words can be said to someone else and that person might not feel the same way you felt. The reason is the way the words were perceived by him or her. That was why I say that, perception is you. Change your thinking/perception and you change that feeling that you don’t like. The way you feel all depend on you. It is not automatic; it is just that most of us are not aware of it, we live 90% of our life unconsciously so we perceive the word we hear unconsciously, and we felt bad about ourselves all day, dwelling on that same thought, and tomorrow when you remember that thought sorry you will get that same bad feeling, it won’t change, no! It won’t. Choose what you want to think, and be happy, chose happiness, and think happiness and all you get is happiness. It is all you, not because of your friends, your spouse, brothers, sisters, or anybody. It is your choice. If you choose to believe what people says concerning you, rather than what God says, it is your choice. If you choose to believe what the system of the world dictate to you, rather than what the word of God says concerning you, it is your choice. When you choose to believe what your ego is telling you, rather than what your spirit is telling you, it is still your choice. So also your feelings are your choice. And to change that feeling that you don’t like, you change the way you think, be conscious of your present, and what you allow into your thought. So, please don’t blame the source it was your choice. Chapter eleven MY LIFE PATTERN The root of my worries I can’t stop but worries, whenever I remember what he made me to pass through, believe me, Helen, he is very wicked, each day I woke up, his face is what I see, and the agony of yesterday has now become my reality, please, I don’t really know what is happening to me anymore and my life is without joy. Please what can I do? If anyone be in Christ he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come. when this is your believe, you are no longer a servant to your intellect (your senses), but you are now, a servant to your spirit “the God in you”. Your spirit makes you to draw near to God, because God is his source. He lives according to the dictates of the word of God, so he dwells in God’s presence at all time and in the presence of the Lord; there is fullness of joy and at his right hand are pleasure forever more. This is what you get when you are in Christ, and your life changes because you now have God in you. If you are not conscious of this truth, you are still a servant to your senses, and you live your life according to the dictates of your ego, where there is no lasting peace or joy, where pain and unhappiness rules, a life where worries becomes your reality. But in Christ, you don’t conform to the pattern of this world anymore, but you are transformed by the renewing of your mind. Your mind-set is no longer filled with rebellion, guilt, depression, fear, confusion and frustration but righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. Check yourself now, do you still operate with a mind-set of rebellion, guilt, fear, confusion, worries and frustration, if so, you don’t believe you are in Christ, you are still conforming to the pattern of this world, through your senses. Your ego is still dictating to your life, and you are a servant to him, that is the only reason you are living in worries and fear. God says He did not give you the spirit of fear. You got it from your master (your senses). You are still an old creation, you cannot mock God, it is what you’ve sown you will reap. Your life pattern reflects the agony of yesterday, do you know he is no longer the problem; you are, because you are allowing yesterday negative event to rule over your life. You must stop now! Come to Jesus, with the whole of your heart, don’t stand in the middle, a double minded person is never stable in anything he does. Give your heart wholly to God, love Him, and let the Holy Spirit transforms you into a lifestyle of righteousness, peace and joy forever. So forget what he made you to pass through your joy is in God. Chapter twelve MY RELATIONSHIP Thereflection of my own thought I have told her, I am no more interested in the relationship; I am tired of her pesky attitude, bringing out fault in everything that I say or do, choking my time for myself. God what is really wrong with this lady, I never knew she is like this, oh God help me. The problem is not the lady, check yourself, it is you. She is still that lovely lady you meet several years ago caring, loving and beautiful. The lady that takes interest in her household affairs, that lady with a sense of humour, that lady that loves you so much, and you said, “she is just what I wanted for a wife and the mother of my children”. Relationship is like a mirror, it reflects what stands in front of it. Make the product what the customer wants and the customer will always want more. it is love that attract love, take a memory check of what you’ve been doing before she came into your life and the moment you notice a change in her attitude, then you will see that it is not just her that have changed, you have changed as well, but her outcome is scaring you, forgetting that her outcome is only your own reflection. Life is all about relationship, it depends on what you are giving, and it is what you give that you will receive, it is either you give something good and receive that good back in hundred fold or you give that fear of yours and receive its product. Man is made or birth in the law of pure spirituality, he is a product of a divine mind, and that is, he is a spirit that manifest itself in the physical realm of life. Man must operate through the law of giving. Man is alive when he is in the state of balance and equilibrium, this state of stability is one of fulfilment and harmony, and it is maintain by a constant give and take. Man must give to support every other human being and in turn he is nourished by every other human being. Man is always in a state of dynamic flow and the flow is never interrupted, in fact the flow is the very essence of his life and only by maintaining this flow of giving is man able to receive and thus continue in its vibrant existence. In a relationship it depend on what you’re giving, your love, value and passion. Because it is this love, value and passion that attract the lady into your live, she is your thinking, she is what you wanted, when you saw her the first time, something attracted you to her, you saw something that you like, something you’ve been thinking about, that thing is called your passion. When she met you the first time, there is something in her, with time that saw value in you and she love it and it give birth to a relationship. It all started with you, and the relationship was your dream and now you’re tired of her, when only what she is doing is a reflection of your love, value and passion. Leaving her will not solve the problem because you will repeat it in your next relationship. This shows that you lack knowledge of who you really are. You are a product of a divine mind, there is a God in you that is your spirit, it is the life wire of your life and the source of your very being, not until you receive and acknowledged him, your life will be a continuous playback of failed relationship, because the love and value and passion of your life can only be maintain by God, who is the source. You need a constant connection to this source to maintain a stress less life and relationship. “My people perish because they lack knowledge”. Believe me that lady loves you. Conclusion AS HE IS (So we are) Now by this we know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments. He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandment, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in Him. By this we know that we are in Him. He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked. (1 John 2:3-6) You cannot give unconditional love to another until you know that you are loved by God. And for you to know that you are love by God you must believe in Him, you must know his word, you must accept Him, when you do; you will find out that God is all about you. You are a product of His love and you can easily give, because of the present of God’s love in you. If the love of God is not in you, you will find it very difficult to show His kind of love to your fellow human. A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another. (John 13:34-35). Love is a commandment given to you by God, because He loves you, you can only have access to this love if you know Him, and if you know Him you will keep His commandment and if you keep His commandment you will love your neighbour as you love yourself, because due to the knowledge of God’s love in you, you now know yourself very well, and that has lead you to the give that same love that God has given you, which is unconditional. HE IS NOW YOUR DWELLING PLACE Whosoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God and God in him. So it is impossible to know God without loving Him, if you say you know God; definitely you must love Him, because that is the only access to knowing him “LOVE”. And if you love Him, then He is abiding in you. It takes His abode in you to know Him, and it takes you knowing Him to love Him. For in him we live and move and have our being... (Act 17:28). You must make God your dwelling place to be like Him, and by doing this you overcome the woes of this world. All these are possible because you are the focus of God’s love, the earth was created for you, everything in it is for your sake, God has given you all things that pertain to life and godliness, He neither sleep nor slumber for your sake, because you are the focus of His love. God’s love for you is not because of what you do, it is because of who He is. FAITH IS ENERGIZED BY LOVE When you know that God loves you, you will have boldness in life, so boldness in life is in God, you have to know God to be bold completely in life, and you cannot know God without loving Him, and you cannot love Him, without knowing Him, and if you don’t know Him, you are bound to approach life with fear, the fear of the unknown. God is the all knowing God, so loving Him gives you the privilege of knowing the unknown which gives you boldness in life. Whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in Him. By this we know that we are in Him. The only way to keep God’s word is to know Him, but how can you know His word when you don’t study it, how can you study it when you don’t love Him. The evidence of love is the investment of time. The more time you spent with the word of God, the more you know Him, and the more you know Him, the easier for you to love Him, and when you love Him, you will be like Him, because I and my father are one. Don’t you know that you are the children of the most high; this is only possible when you keep His word; this is only possible when you know Him; and when you love God. YOU ARE ONE WITH GOD I do not pray for these alone, but also for those who will believe in Me through their word; that they all may be one, as You are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that you sent Me. And the glory which you gave me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one; I in them, and You in me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent me, and have loved them as You have loved Me (John 17: 20-23). This is what the love of God is capable of doing, bringing you to the position of God, which you were in the beginning. Until your behaviour is consistent with what you know, you don’t really know it. Until your behaviour is consistent with the word of God, you don’t really know God, and that only tells you that you don’t love Him, as you’ve declared. Because if you know Him you will live as He lives, you will love as He loves, because you are one with Him. So you’re the root of your fears, because you refuse to give yourself to God, you refused to love Him, with the whole of our heart, and by doing that you give place to the devil, the beginning of the torment in life. look within yourself, what will it cause you to love God with the whole of your heart, are you better off, or you really need Him and loving Him with your head, which give place to the enemy, which bring fears to your life, which involved torment. CHOOSE THIS DAY WHOM YOU WILL FELLOW And if you want to reconnect yourself back to God and believe and follow His words, in other to have every successful trait of his personality then read the prayer below and believe it. O Lord God, I come to you in the name of Jesus Christ. Your word says, “...whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord, shall be saved” (Act 2:21) I ask Jesus to come into my heart to be Lord of my life. I receive eternal life into my spirit and according to Romans 10:9, “That if I shall confess with my mouth the Lord Jesus, and shall believe in my heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, I shall be saved” I declare that I am saved; I am born-again; I am a child of God! I now have Christ dwelling in me, and greater is he that is in me than he that is in the world! (1 John 4:4). I now walk in the consciousness of my new life in Christ Jesus. Hallelujah! Congratulation! You are now a child of God. If you said this prayer plaese don’t forget to send me a mail, telling me you are now a child of God, so that we will continue to pray for you and your love ones. This is my email address; owotaay@gmail.com or owotaay@yahoo.com Thanks and God bless you. OWOTA AY REFERENCE SCRIPTURES All scriptural quotations are taken from the Bible unless otherwise indicated. ABOUT THE AUTHOR OWOTA A Y is the founder of LightUpUrLife dot com. He is a spiritual inspirational writer/author, he is married to his princess Ena, and he is the author of THE MORAL POWER, MY MEMORY LIFE, and THE RIGHT-CHOICE LIFE. The titles are available at most leading eBook retailers. Connect with OWOTA AY Direct e-mail: owotaay@yahoo.com https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/owotaay THANK YOU FOR READING THIS BOOK What area of your life do you want to light up. Rlationship or business you can send me a mail at owotaay@yahoo.com