Ring EXchange, Adventures of a Multiple Marrier
Ring EXchange - Adventures of a Multiple Marrier is the intriguing true story of Pam Evans, who has been married and divorced four times, and lived to tell the tale -- with honesty, humor, and a heartfelt message for her readers. More
Ring EXchange - Adventures of a Multiple Marrier is the intriguing true story of Pam Evans, who has been married and divorced four times, and lived to tell the tale -- with honesty, humor, and a heartfelt message for her readers.
To date, there are very few books written by multiple marriers about their many treks "down the aisle." Here, Pam candidly describes her own "long and winding road" of marriages that began when she was 18, then occurred again in her 20s, her 30s, and her 40s. Each time, though, that road led eventually from the altar to the divorce court.
So why has Pam decided to disclose these very personal aspects of her life in a book for all to read? "I was inspired to write this book for a couple of reasons," she muses. "First, writing made me work on self-discovery and examine closely why I made the choices I made in the past, and why I rushed into such hasty decisions about husbands. For example, one pattern I found was that I often did minimal vetting of my potential partners."
Another reason for Pam's "coming clean" about her many marriages is, "I truly want to impart my knowledge, realizations, insights, and (I hope) wisdom to others who are caught in the multiple marriage syndrome...perhaps they can learn from the behaviors and patterns that I'm now confronting and resolving in my own life. "
There's another aspect to writing this book: "People who have never been married, or married only once, or are simply curious about multiple marriers may also find my experiences enlightening." Pam describes her many rides on the Marry-Go-Round, complete with hard-won Lessons Learned at the end of each chapter, thought-provoking observations and soul-searching questions.
Throughout the book, Pam also includes hilarious observations about her marital adventures. For example: her second wedding venue was a quaint, turn-of-the-century Shaker Community Church where there were, literally, "bats in the belfry," while, in contrast, her third wedding venue was a drive-up, storefront chapel in Nevada where the two witnesses were included in the cost of the ceremony.
With such chapter topics as Taboos, Tattoos and The Scarlet Letter, Throw the Guilt Out with the Bath Water, Loneliness, Know Thyself First, Do as I Say - Not as I Do, and Raise Your Hand if You Live in Arkansas, it's easy to see that Pam has included many tales about her somewhat "checkered past."
Fifteen men and women multiple marriers from the U.S., Australia and Panama agreed to be interviewed for Ring EXchange case studies. These interviewees completed a detailed questionnaire that covered various aspects of their lives, relating to their choices, attitudes, and philosophies about marriage. Excerpts from their own histories (with names disguised) are scattered throughout the book; their complete case studies can be found on the book's Web site.