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Concerned Parent II
on June 21, 2012 :
You are definitely on target in your publication. You certainly offer some great insight into what I believe are the realities of divorce. Your comment, "Armed with this information, your divorce can be done with a 5 minute hearing before a judge" is so true, that's how it began for me. I say began because what I thought was the end, was really only the beginning. Approximately 10 years later and it is still not over. But we are, after all, human, and as humans, we tend to change as our circumstances (new relationships, new children, new marriage, etc.) do. This is where litigation can become dangerous for the child(ren). What parents need to understand is that life happens to everyone, but when it does, they need to remember that the real winner must always be the child.
It's important for good attorneys (what's left of them) like yourself to communicate with their clients, not at them. Not feed off of the clients emotions, but empathize and offer support to the best of their professional and human ability. I think that Attorneys have the ability to be strong advocates for the children (again, the real winners) while representing the parent, so long as that Attorney remembers to maintain their course of ethical responsibilities.
Too many attorneys are either born with, or have grown to become "ambulance chasers", merely in it for the money. Granted, everyone has to eat. But what about the children?
I offer this to add to your publication and as a message to the parents; when choosing an attorney for divorce/custody litigation, parents should be aware of the comments made by prospective attorneys during the interview/screening process. Do they say things like.."we'll take him/her to the cleaners"..."we'll get him/her" or pumping you up to prepare for a fight as in a high school pep rally? These are probably good indicators for you to stay far away and keep shopping, unless that is your position and motive in your litigation, in which case you may complement each other resulting in an unfortunate outcome where your child does not come out the winner.
To the author, keep up the great work! Knowledge is indeed POWER!
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