Your Child is Your Parent
A happy parent leads to a happy child. A parent who is reflective, calm and positive can, by his or her own example, mould and nurture these very qualities in the child. The child thus provides an opportunity for the parents themselves to look at their own life patterns, behaviour and thinking and change these to cultivate their own growth, as well as that of their child. More
The most important part of the book is that which discusses the transformation of the parent and the family. What particularly strikes me are the explanations about how one’s child is one’s parent, or mentor, or Guru, and how so:
- The child’s behaviour mirrors the atmosphere at home and the parent’s way of being.
- Outer transformation, i.e., the behaviour modification of the child, comes from the inner transformation of the parents and the family. This inner transformation comes from the parents wanting to be role models for the desired behaviour of the child.
What also makes a dent are some of the methods of inner transformation as suggested here, which include:
- Methods of distancing oneself from emotions such as anger.
- Methods of forgiving oneself and others, e.g., by talking while the child is sleeping. This comes about through effortless truthfulness of the parent.
- Methods for opening oneself to learning to be joyful without any reason or condition, while playing with the child—things such as acting as if crazy, dancing with joy etc. which one can do only with a child.
I am grateful for this insight into joyful effortless super parenting. I am grateful for the reminder as to what a gift the child is to us. It is no more only about educating the super child, as in Glenn Doman’s work; it is about experiencing the immense gratitude for allowing us to be parents to these little gods, without whom we could not have stepped out of our serious destructive dispositions to become playful loveable angels on earth.