I'm Taking My Eggs and Going Home: How One Woman Dared to Say No to Motherhood

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This award-winning memoir traces Manterfield’s descent from rational 21st century woman to desperate mama-wannabe. She examines the siren song of motherhood and the truth about being childless in a mom-centric society. This is a story about love, desire, and choices; it is the story of a woman who escapes her addiction, not with a baby, but with her sanity, marriage and sense-of-self intact. More

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About Lisa Manterfield

Lisa Manterfield is the creator of LifeWithoutBaby.com, an online forum that gives a voice to women without children. Her writing has been featured in Los Angeles Times, Bicycle Times, and Romantic Homes. She lives with her husband and cat, and divides her time between Los Angeles and Santa Rosa, California. For more information, please visit LisaManterfield.com.


Review by: Sonja Lewis on Jan. 30, 2011 :
This is Lisa Manterfield’s heartfelt story of how she came to terms with childlessness. The appropriately named book will resonate with any woman who has desired children, but due to infertility or other circumstances, has not succeeded.

Quite frankly, it is a good read for anyone who has ever grappled with a deeply emotional issue. That’s all of us.

But be ready for boldness. This writer doesn’t do sugarcoating. Hip Hip Hooray to her for telling it like it is, and also for seeing this very important story through to a book.

I don’t know Lisa, but as a fellow writer and woman who doesn’t have children, I feel as if I do. No wonder her story resonates with me, but it was her honest admission of imagining her husband dead, so she could adopt—not really, you have to read it for yourself—that hooked me. Moments! Precious moments feature big in this title and are so well crafted that you feel as if you are there. And no doubt you will read voraciously until the very last page.
(reviewed within a month of purchase)

Review by: Pamela Tsigdinos on Jan. 17, 2011 :
This is a spirited memoir recounting what led author Lisa Manterfield on and off what she terms the "crazy train" in pursuit of pregnancy and motherhood. "I'm Taking My Eggs and Going Home" makes mince meat out of the notion that if women in their 30s "try" hard enough, relax more, change their diet, engage in acupuncture and yoga, they can achieve pregnancy. Manterfield devoted five years of her life in pursuit of an outcome that didn't materialize, and, in the end, realized how much she sacrificed in the process. In a day and age when motherhood is held up as a crowning womanly achievement and when parenthood is positioned as a necessary validation of a life well lived, it takes guts to dare to say no to motherhood.
(reviewed long after purchase)

Review by: Jenn Barnhouse on Dec. 27, 2010 :
Thank you for writing this heartfelt and much needed book!

I was soooo incredibly glad to see another woman finally tell her family building story of infertility and subsequent childlessness.

In terms of family building options, there are countless books about infertility and infertility treatment. There are about as many books about adoption as well.
Childlessness is the only family building outcome that seems to be painfully left out.

Childlessness is more often the outcome of infertility than our society is led to believe. Infertility treatments and/or adoption are not always family building possibilities. Additionally these options are not always successful.

This well written and honest book helps gives a voice to those of us out there who end up living childless - whether by choice or not.

A must-read for anybody struggling with the possibility of childlessness in their life! You will not regret reading this book!
(reviewed within a month of purchase)

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