Why You Should Ignore The ‘Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mom’…And Instead Listen To The Sweet, ‘Peaceful Song of the Panda Mom!’ More
Do you really want to make your kids practice an instrument for 5 hours straight without dinner because you want them to “succeed” at any cost?
Do you want to make your kids study every spare moment without any fun or recreation, just so they can get good grades?
Do you really want to be a merciless, overbearing “stage door mom” practically abusing your kids so they get straight “A”’s, and nothing but straight “A”’s?
Do you want success for your kids so badly that you are willing to turn your house into a local version of a communist military dictatorship?
Are you willing to turn time back to the dark ages, where the “spare the rod, spoil the child” philosophy gets a 21st century revival in your home?
Or…would you rather discover how to improve your parenting in the gentle but effective manner of the Panda Mom?
See, a new book on the best seller list, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother”, by Amy Chua arrogantly tells us “Why Chinese Parents are Superior.”
Chua had dared to reject American parenting tactics in favor of the strict, inflexible, threatening, screaming model she calls “Chinese Mother.”
While many people have expressed their outrage at Chua’s book and military style of parenting, we have found an author who wrote an amazing refutation of Chua’s book. “Peaceful Song Of The Panda Mom” gives you an alternative persona to stand up against Tiger Mother: the Panda Mom.
Panda Mom represents everything Tiger Mother does not: nurturance balanced with firmness, positive reinforcement offset with effective limit-setting.
Above all, Panda Mom believes that a parent’s primary goal is to encourage children to develop independence and self-sufficiency they can carry into adulthood.
Ms. X took the Panda Mom identity and ran with it. She’s forced to use the pen name, “Ms X”, because this topic and her opinions are so charged with emotions, so filled with controversy…she’s not willing to reveal who she really is.
Ms. X has a BA in English, and 27 years of research experience in behavioral and cognitive psychology . Ms. X is worried what might happen to her and her career if her “peers” discovered she’s the author of this ground breaking new book. (People in this field are pretty stuffy, and don’t like it when “one of their own” jumps out with shocking and startling opinions that run against conventional wisdom and traditional thought.).
Ms. X refutes Tiger Mother’s principles one by one, chapter by chapter. The resulting book provides support for the American style of parenting, rooted in the values of our forefathers and backed up by solid research findings.
Ms. X presents positive alternatives to the rigid Tiger Mother doctrine, including:
· An open-minded definition of success; · Healthy support for education; · Fostering independence; · Reinforcing positive behavior; · Setting effective, reasonable limits and consequences; · Communication and relationship-building; and, · Imparting values.
For American parents who were dumbstruck by Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, Peaceful Song of the Panda Mom is a must-read. As Ms. X points out, Amy Chua may end up with apparent success stories for her daughters from an outsider’s point of view…but would her daughters agree?
How will the test of time work out for her children?
Ms. X strongly disagrees with Amy Chua’s dictatorial “Tiger Mom” methods…and shows you easy to understand ways to raise your children so they may also achieve success…but without the harsh, tough and militaristic methods Amy Chua espouses.
Why does Ms. Chua offend us so much? Why do we have such visceral feelings of discomfort when we read how Ms. Chua raises her daughters? Read the Peaceful Song of the Panda Mom to discover how to reinforce your childrens’ successes, begin improving on your mistakes, all the while avoiding the unforgiving and potentially harmful ways of the Tiger Mom.