Valerie

Biography

Valerie was born in Seattle, Washington in 1945 during a time when abuse was treated as a family secret; never to be spoken of outside the home. Unable to subscribe to the 'silence rules' society demanded of her, Valerie became the anti-Christ figure in her family. She was viewed as the problem, not her father, the abuser. The third of six daughters, Valerie found herself alone in her struggle to stop her father's abuse. Her mother was oblivious to the horror Valerie experienced, and refused to acknowledge her pain. Her sisters viewed her as a thorn in their side and eventually cast her aside as an unwanted trouble maker. As a child of abuse, Valerie followed the all too familiar path most abused children find themselves on. She became an angry, rebellious child and teenager, a promiscuous alcoholic and drug addict as an adult. She suffered several mental maladies from the abuse and lack of support, such as stress related seizures, gaps in time, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder resulting in numerous hospitalizations. Left to raise herself, Valerie made numerous poor choices that resulted in an inability to maintain a lasting relationship and a failed marriage. Unable to hold down a job, Valerie became an escort and eventually went to work for the Seattle Police Department and US Treasury Department as an undercover agent. While working undercover, she was diagnosed with breast cancer but refused to let that stop her from working for the police. After not seeing her mother for several years, Valerie was forced to move back in with her during her fight with cancer. While living with her mother, they began to deal with the truth of the past. Eventually Valerie and her mother moved to Mazatlan, Mexico in 2004 to get away from her sisters who felt Valerie had too much influence on their mother. Moving became the answer to her problems. Her mother died in 2006 and Valerie continues to live in Mazatlan with no intention of returning to the US. Valerie wrote the book Celebrate the Dandelions at the request of her mother. She spent two years writing the book after her mother's death. Valerie also studies art at the Angela Peralta School of Fine arts near her home and many of her paintings have been purchased and adorn the walls in homes in Australia, New Zealand, England, and the United States.

Smashwords Interview

Where did you grow up, and how did this influence your writing?
I grew up in Seattle, Washington in 1945. This was during a time when abuse was NEVER talked about and considered a family problem. My family refused to acknowledge the abuse, allowing it to continue. My mother turned a blind eye to the problem and I was left to raise myself. Realizing I was a child raising a child continues to amaze me. The fact that I survived to write a book about it, surprises me even more.
When did you first start writing?
Two weeks after my mother's death in May of 2004. She wanted me to write my story but the terrible relationship we had prevented me from agreeing to her request. I told her I could never write a book about my childhood because I would have to portray her as the terrible mother that she was. She laughed and said, "I was a terrible mother, so get over it." I eventually agreed to write the book, but only after she passed away. She passed away the day I agreed to write the book.
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Books

Celebrate the Dandelions
Price: $4.95 USD. Words: 93,830. Language: American English. Published: March 30, 2015 . Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Abuse / general
(5.00 from 8 reviews)
Celebrate the Dandelions is written from the POV of the child as the abuse occurs, not from the therapist's couch thirty years later. The reader is taken on a roller coaster ride of emotions as she deals with the abuse and her family's refusal to acknowledge it. Diagnosed with PTSD she gets the help she has been looking for only to learn she has breast cancer. Material suitable for young adults.