Barbara Castle-Farmer

Biography

Barbara Castle had a varied career changing jobs almost every year since her working life began in 1965. Although she trained as a journalist her father insisted she start out on something ‘safe.’ And so her first job was with the Cape Town City Council as a draughtsman. And you don’t get much safer than that.

From there she went on to being a doctor’s receptionist, factory manager, TV sales consultant, personnel officer, mall manager’s secretary, personnel placement consultant, financial advisor, National Bird Ringing Unit of SA’s secretary and other rather odd jobs.

Although her paid working life was thoroughly haphazard there is one thing that she has always done. And that is to write. At age 15 Barbara was first published in the Cape Times and since then her insightful, thought-provoking and often humorous articles have been published in magazines and newspapers both locally and internationally – including Cosmopolitan, Curve, Caravan & Outdoor Life, Fairlady, You, and Diva.

In 1983 she finally found a working home at Reader’s Digest as a junior copywriter. She remained there for 16 years and, on being made creative director, was fortunate to work in their many offices throughout the world.

Barbara left the Digest in 1997 and has since worked as a freelance editor, written for and edited numerous trade publications and worked as a freelance advertising copywriter with some of South Africa’s top agencies.

In 2009 she and her life-partner of 32 years, Sandy Farmer, moved permanently to Prince Albert in the Great Karoo. There she served as editor of the Prince Albert Friend/Vriend newspaper for three years, after which she stepped away from deadlines and the daily grind and now writes whatever she likes for the sheer joy of the written word.

Smashwords Interview

What made you realise that you had to write this book?
I’ve been writing this book all my life really. Many chapters are taken from articles I’ve had published over the years. But the defining moment came when [yet another] friend burst into tears and told me that her daughter had ‘turned’ gay. The agony that was all over my poor friend’s face made me wish for the hundredth time that I could whisk a book out of my purse [handbag] saying, “Well I’ve got just the book for you!" Because ‘gay’ and ‘happy’ are NOT mutually exclusive. In my experience - of traumatised parents, confused youngsters, well-meaning friends, ill-informed medical practitioners and more - I'd say there is a real need for such a book. And straight people, especially those with gay relatives, need to know that while it might not all be feathers and sunshine it can be pretty wonderful to be gay.
What did you hope this book might achieve?
Well, in a nutshell... I hoped that it would give straight people a clearer picture of us gay people. That it would give gay people a sense of pride. And that it would encourage acceptance of those who are ‘different’ among us. Most importantly I hoped it might enlighten friends and family, colleagues and medicos to the point where they could be helpful and supportive ... if need be. Rather than frightened out of their wits and filled with gloomy doom.
Read more of this interview.

Where to find Barbara Castle-Farmer online

Where to buy in print

Books

Finding my Own Way to Happy and Gay
Price: $4.99 USD. Words: 70,970. Language: Commonwealth English. Published: November 24, 2014 . Categories: Nonfiction » LGBTQ+ » Coming out, Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Life stages / adolescence
An often hilarious often heartbreaking account of coming out by a young lesbian in 60s South Africa. It wasn’t all sliding along on buttered feet ... there was angst & anguish along the way, battles won, hopes lost, and many laughably embarrassing moments. And in spite of all the available reading, it’s no easier coming out today than it was last century - no matter where you live!