What made you realise that you had to write this book?
I’ve been writing this book all my life really. Many chapters are taken from articles I’ve had published over the years. But the defining moment came when [yet another] friend burst into tears and told me that her daughter had ‘turned’ gay. The agony that was all over my poor friend’s face made me wish for the hundredth time that I could whisk a book out of my purse [handbag] saying, “Well I’ve got just the book for you!" Because ‘gay’ and ‘happy’ are NOT mutually exclusive. In my experience - of traumatised parents, confused youngsters, well-meaning friends, ill-informed medical practitioners and more - I'd say there is a real need for such a book. And straight people, especially those with gay relatives, need to know that while it might not all be feathers and sunshine it can be pretty wonderful to be gay.
What did you hope this book might achieve?
Well, in a nutshell... I hoped that it would give straight people a clearer picture of us gay people. That it would give gay people a sense of pride. And that it would encourage acceptance of those who are ‘different’ among us. Most importantly I hoped it might enlighten friends and family, colleagues and medicos to the point where they could be helpful and supportive ... if need be. Rather than frightened out of their wits and filled with gloomy doom.
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