This guides the therapist as a partner's borderline behaviors disrupt both home & couple therapy. The borderline existential trinity: betrayal/abandonment/rejection direct a response trinity: caring compliance/intimacy/acceptance. Challenging the core borderline paradigm leads to personal & couple's change. Quantitative changes in 5 areas lead to qualitative change individually & in the couple.
There are two levels of communication between people: the rational and the emotional. This book describes how people influence each other emotionally and how our emotions can overwhelm reason when we are interacting with another person. This is emotional reactivity, and this book describes seven steps to transform it. Learn to free your relationships from emotional distortion.