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When I was four my father wrote of me, 'Adrian has so much love in his heart that he will always make it look easy'.
Upon reading this, I felt devastated. He may as well have written, ‘Adrian is a dodo, he has no ability and will come to nothing’ is what I felt. My father was an ambitious man, so I thought that he had written me off: I wouldn’t have a big job, I wouldn’t bring in big money, I wouldn’t succeed. However, I now know that my father’s impression of me was a huge compliment, and it was intended as such. To Love (and be loved) is the greatest achievement (and challenge) of all, (and this is particularly true in a society that almost exclusively places value on a person on the basis of their success).
I have been caught up in the 'L-Factor' - the 'love-challenge'- for many years now as a son, husband, father, friend and writer, and over the past few years, whenever I haven’t been busy changing nappies, deciphering baby-talk, kissing bumps better, hanging out clothes (I don't do ironing, much to my wife's chagrin), making dinners, or washing the dishes, I have been busy writing about it in fiction and non-fiction forms.
Being a man with a history - a year spent in France, four in Japan, six at university in Britain, four years training to be a Catholic priest with the Jesuits in Ireland, ten years living through the conflict in Northern Ireland, and, finally, the past ten years or so as a stay-at-home father - I feel I have interesting things to say.
My non-fiction work on conflict resolution, namely Socio-ideological Fantasy and the Northern Ireland Conflict (Manchester University Press, 2006), was short-listed in New York in 2007 for the Best Book Award by the National Association for the Advancement of Psychoanalysis, and was awarded Best Theoretical Paper award in 2001 by the American International Association for Conflict Management.
My days now are currently spent at home fending for my kids, catching up with friends who inspire me, getting exercise, keeping my hand in with prayer, spoiling my wife - who spoils me - and writing about my experiences of life.
It is no different from millions of other lives around the globe - millions of beautiful lives.
I write about some of these on my blog, the link for which you can find below under Blog.
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