Based out of the UK, I’ve been a coach since 2002 and have specialized as a confidence coach (under the moniker of The Confidence Guy) since 2007. To say I love being able to work with people on their self-confidence is an under-statement. I adore it.
I’ve learned a heap about what real, natural confidence is from both my coaching work and my own life. But man alive, have I made some major screw ups in my life…
I spent a year on anti-depressants when I was 20 and a cocktail of anti-depressants when I turned 30. Having spent way too long forcing myself into a professional role that didn’t fit me I had a breakdown at a level I didn’t even know was possible. I didn’t talk for 3 months because conversation made no sense to me. Time became elastic. I lost my smile.
It took me 18 months to pull myself up, piece myself back together and figure out who the hell I was. And that’s where I started making my own changes. I trained as a coach. I became responsible for the huge debts I’d built up. I made choices that reflected what mattered to me the most, not the stuff that didn’t matter a jot.
I came down with CFS/ME in 2008 (it’s your basic incurable, debilitating, chronic illness) and it’s with me every single day. I’ve sought treatments and solutions, and on that journey have found some things that will benefit me for the rest of my life. I will not permit the illness to win, and I’m confident I’ll beat it.
And here I am today.
I’m not a guru. I don’t have it all figured out, and I’ll always be something of an idiot. I laugh at the most inappropriate and politically incorrect things. My flippant and facetious sense of humour regularly sees me putting my foot squarely in my mouth.
At heart, I’m a geek, physical clutz (seriously, I dance like Ernest Borgnine leading a jazzercise class), big dufus and a bigger kid. But I’m always looking to better myself, and what I do here is simply sharing some stuff that I’ve found to work, for me and for my clients.
So if you’ve made it this far then I owe you a big THANK YOU – time is the one thing they’re not making any more of, so I appreciate you spending some of your time right here.
I hope you won’t be a stranger.