on Feb. 17, 2018 :
This books deals with addiction, but it is also a great all around self help books. It explains quite clearly many of the concepts found in some of the best self help books. I have read many books about substance abuse and self improvement, and I recommend this for just about anyone. Even if you are not struggling with substance abuse, there are so many negative behaviours that you may not even realise you need help with, for example struggling with self esteem, fear, anxiety, inability to mange time, and many other underlying problems that lead to substance abuse are addressed in this book. Thanks to the author for taking the time to offer help to all who need it.
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on Jan. 2, 2018 :
An interesting and insightful read here on the very serious subject of addiction. Having worked with literally hundreds of addicts and living with one for a very long time, I feel I am fully experienced to understand the crux of this subject. I have attended many an AA and NA meeting in my lifetime and understand the philosophy of the 12-Step Programs extremely well. It has helped many to overcome their addiction (s) be it alcohol or other drugs, gambling, obsessive compulsive disorders etc. These programs are not the complete answer for everyone as it is entirely up to the individual to make the change necessary to overcome the addiction that is destroying their lives and others in it. Invariably, if there is one person in the Family who is addicted to whatever it may be, many others within that Family and beyond (ie: friends) are truly affected in a very negative way. It does destroy lives and certainly minds.
Addiction is about LOSSES. There is very little to gain. I have facilitated many groups on this very subject and I ask clients to consider the GAINS and LOSSES - in every case the losses far outweigh the gains. Secondly, they wouldn't be sitting in a detox unit because their lives are fulfilled!! The Cycle of Change is a good example of how one can understand the theory of addiction and can actually use this theory in many aspects of their lives. Addiction is also about RELAPSES. Some will say it is a disease and needs to be treated on a daily basis like any other form of disease or as AA says - "DIS - EASE". Infact, it pays to go to an AA meeting just for the experience because they use a lot of cliches in their meetings...you only get out of a meeting what you give in or prepared to take away with you. Certainly, it doesn't define the person as just being an "Alcoholic"...it comes through experience, strength and hope.
This subject has been spoken and written about for centuries. One wonders WHY people choose (or is it a choice some would argue?) to repeat the same behaviour expecting a different result? Another classic cliche of AA or even NA. It never ceases to amaze me how people with addictions will lie, steal and cheat their very loved ones for the sake of their next "buzz" as I like to call it - ultimately the thrill is gone in the end. Some will die trying to beat it. I have attended many a Funeral of young people and older who have died through misadventure or through killing themselves by their own addiction. I have also bear witness to people who are infact dying before my very eyes (health reasons mainly) and still they walk out those doors and pick up a drink or a drug knowing the end result.
Is there a cure? Mikey paints a picture where one can indeed find a cure by stepping out and LIVING life fully, to find experiences and enjoy the freedom one has to do so. I know what it feels like to lose that freedom and it hits HARD - there is no joy in losing your freedom and it certainly drives home the fact that no addiction is worth that loss. However, for some, a "rock bottom" could mean a loss of self respect/self-esteem and the ability to control one's mind fully ever again.
I agree that we live in a world now that is so horrifying at times and frightening that we are scared to even walk out our front doors for fear of being terrorised or abused or bombarded with consumerism that if you don't have the newest gadget or the various "I" this and that you are truly not living!! I only recently brought a new mobile phone 1 month ago after 10 years...some thought I was living in the dark ages...hmmph! I rarely watch TV or the News and I never buy newspapers. I have travelled to some Countries and I wish to travel some more and my motto in life is - CARPE DIEM! I live by this motto because I value my life and those in it. Make use of the opportunities because you never know when those opportunities will be snapped away from you.
I detest gaming venues and never understood why the State of Victoria decided to introduce them - I think it was NSW that had them initially? Pokie machines or what used to be the "One arm bandits" are just that - BANDITS! They will rob you blind and take your very life. The Government should hang their heads in shame. They tax you on booze, tobacco and other such things that keep the addicted - addicted and care less for an individuals life than they do for the $'s they make.
So, in closing, I thoroughly enjoyed this read and got alot from it. I think the subject of addiction is very complex though and is not as black and white as some may see it to be.
Thankyou Mikey, top effort!
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