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Elisabeth Morrissey learned a lot as a volunteer for several years at The Gender Identity Center of Colorado, a transgender support organization, and from her twenty-five year marriage to an M2F transsexual. She is otherwise a homemaker and support system for her spouse, Karen.
Elisabeth is a member of the Thursday Night Writer's Group in Denver. She is co-writing a book about transgender people, the working title of which is "Transgender Blunders," with her partner Karen and C.J. Wasinger. She co-edited a memoir, "I Have My Ups & Downs" by C.J. Wasinger.
on Jan. 24, 2011 :
Finally, someone has written a thought provoking realistic view of a journey not often written about, that of a cisgendered wife of a trans woman. The book however is not for the faint of heart as Elisabeth Morrissey leaves the confines of accepted 'transgender community views' and language to express her own raw but realistic view of the personal journey between Elisabeth and her life partner. The book may not for for everyone as the book does depart from more accepted terms and thinking to express her own views in her own words and in her own way. As a trans person, this is what I found especially powerful and appealing. "Its Not All About You" was written for those who may want a different view of the road ahead. This is a no holds barred view of a very personal journey, a journey of commitment, strength, sacrifice, and love in the fast lane of a very critical world (including our own) that comes at times, in the form of advice for other kindred souls on the same journey. Great work and a good read..
(reviewed long after purchase)
(reviewed 44 days after purchase)
on Jan. 09, 2011 :
Elizabeth Morrissey, a female attracted cisgendered woman, married for 25 years to a transwoman, writes advice to other cisgendered women whose partners are transgendered. She covers a broad range of topics from employment issues, telling family, friends, and children, therapy, as well as discussing the numerous steps involved in changing gender. She has a section on polyamory as a way to enhance one’s relationship. There is a lot of information in here based on her years of living with a transwoman and on some years participating in a support group for transpeople.
Unfortunately, Elizabeth is not very balanced in her approach to the subject. She uses a casual, sometimes flippant style directed at “you” the reader, assuming that you are a cisgendered woman who is struggling to come to terms with your mate’s condition. She is strongly opinionated on many matters and these opinions come off as “advice” or assertions about what the reader should or should not do. She sometimes shares stories from her life which are much more successful teaching tools than her “do this-don’t do that” ramblings.
I was pretty disturbed by her use of terms such as “transsexual male” or “husband” to refer to her partner. She excuses herself by proclaiming that she does not have to be “politically correct.” To her, it is all about boundaries. To me, it is all about spiritual growth and learning to love well. Her attitude toward cross-dressers was rather appalling; her respect for the medical expertise of physicians in developing countries was non-existent. Even her respect for transwomen themselves is questionable as evidenced in her discussion of lying and emotional maturity.
It’s too bad this book is so inflammatory. The spousal/partner community of the transpopulation, as small and undervalued as it is, needs to speak out, and for this I am grateful to Elizabeth. I hope to see another book down the line that will do a better job of showing the respect and value of transwomen.
Spouse of MTF post-op transsexual
(reviewed 34 days after purchase)