Song Sung Blue
Cancer has affected the lives of many people, and not just the victims, but their families as well. Breast cancer in particular can be devastating not only to a woman, but also to her husband and children. The journey through illness, treatment, recovery, and recurrence touches all, and the hard decisions concerning insurance, finances, and work, will affect each one. This is one family’s story. More
How do you know your life has changed? A phone call, a text, an email? In that moment we cannot guess what lies ahead, but you know that your family, your friends, all that surrounds you will be touched, and things will never be the same again.
The illness and death of a family member generates a smorgasbord of emotions: grief, despair, loneliness, and fear, for starters. We multitask our emotions, not knowing when one has ended and another begun. And all the time, we are not released from the present task of living life.
I have chronicled the eight year battle that my wife bravely fought, and eventually lost, with breast cancer. I have written this from the perspective of the family, the husband and children, not because the victim’s story is less important, but because it is a story that is less often told. It is a story in which the focus on the healing of the wife and mother is suddenly replaced by loss and the search for understanding of that loss.
This is my family’s story, the life we lived for eight years, and then some. We were players in a drama whose script we did not write. We took our direction and read our lines. It was all mapped out long before we could have ever have known. Yet we were constantly surprised.