on May 29, 2014 :
Well Water Woman
Think of Well as depth. Think of Water as the female principle, in all its aspects.
Having been born in Hong Kong, Ng is the daughter in a traditional family who settled in San Francisco. From early in life, she chafes at their double standard that favors boys over girls. Girls are supposed to be weak, good only for producing sons. With that in mind, she determines to think of herself as a man, strong and independent. She clashes with her parents, particularly her mother.
The paternal grandmother she’s never seen holds importance for her. Certain discoveries about Grandma startle Ng and influence her outlook, even as she seeks her own identity. Eventually Ng realizes she must change herself if she is to find fulfillment. Spiritual practice helps her on a path toward her goal, which involves learning to embrace the Well and the Water of self.
By the book’s end, we see the long journey she has taken. Hers is the journey of overcoming the cultural clashes of a child born to immigrants. The implications, however, can apply to anyone in search of self. We identify with her because, despite our differing backgrounds, in her, we can see our own struggle toward self-acceptance and fulfillment. The read is fast and simply written but with depth of meaning and emotion. A fascinating memoir.
(reviewed 3 days after purchase)