Rated 4.50/5 based on 10 reviews
Dean, a 22-year old female-to-male-transsexual, is no LGBT poster boy. Unemployed, depressed, mid-transition, friendless, and still living in the upstairs bedroom of his parents’ house, he can think of little to do but write his memoir. In the third person, he tells the tale of his would-be love affair with his college roommate, Colin, another trans man with a girlfriend and a successful band. More

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maststocedartrees reviewed on on Jan. 25, 2017

Refuse was a book I didn't know I needed. It was painful at times--a fair bit of dark subject matter in there--but I identified with a lot of Dean's feelings, even if I've (fortunately) outgrown some of them. I would definitely recommend it to anyone who is struggling with feeling like an outsider and wants to feel a little less alone.
(reviewed the day of purchase)
Quiet Riot Girl reviewed on on Nov. 29, 2011

Titles are hard and Refuse is a brilliant title!

I was completely immersed in the life of the lead character from the start of the story. The prose reminded me of Quentin Crisp, particularly the searing honesty and grim humour.

Despite the dark theme of a turbulent coming of age, there were also some laugh out loud moments of funniness.

My favourite scene - without giving too much away - was the trans support group and the appearance by the elusive figure of 'Hunter'.

A brilliant debut. More please!
(reviewed the day of purchase)
Alex Marshall reviewed on on Oct. 1, 2011

I loved this book. It's wonderful. I don't really have anything else to say about it, but I would definitely recommend it to ftms, non-binaries, loners, and anyone who wants to know more about an ftm perspective.
Heartbreaking, beautiful and relatable. What else could you want in a book?
(reviewed 57 days after purchase)
skcup reviewed on on Sep. 28, 2011

I read this book because I wanted to find an ftm narrative that expressed some of my experience (feeling out of place in many ftm spaces, identifying as gay ftm) but, unfortunately, I would not recommend this story. It was sort of painful to read - the author's sadness was palpable but the stereotyped characters and maudlin/melodramatic plot twists were just too over the top for me. I think it worth noting the commitment required to finish a novel of any quality but I hope maturity and perspective (and perhaps a good dose of healing and self-love) will really improve this writer's ability and style.
(reviewed 4 months after purchase)
Nate Russell reviewed on on Sep. 15, 2011

This was a great read. It was insightful and funny as well as thought provoking and sad. It is not just another trans memoir, it is a truly engaging story, a wonderful addition to the trans library. Actually, it has a broader appeal than that, it is a worthy addition to any library!
(reviewed 22 days after purchase)
Blake Haley reviewed on on Aug. 26, 2011
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Really related to this story. My favorite part was probably the amount of peter pan references. It was very difficult to put down, even though I was reading it during work, so I had to put it down frequently :(
I loved it and recommended it to all of my friends.
(reviewed 22 days after purchase)
Lissa reviewed on on Aug. 13, 2011

I knew by the end of the first page that I was going to fall in love with this story. After about an hour of reading I'd started to get a headache from staring at the computer screen, but I just kept going until I was through. The characters continued to surprise me until the end as I smiled, laughed, and cried along with Dean's experiences. Through the tragedy, anger, and cynicism, DeLine gives us a very real story about love, growth, and redemption for ourselves and others. Have a feeling that I will (print it out and) read it again!
(reviewed the day of purchase)
igor repute reviewed on on Aug. 9, 2011

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Sam Cathartes reviewed on on Aug. 7, 2011

A beautiful book. I wish I could write a more poetic review to try and give it justice, but the best I can say is, it really helped me as a trans-man still figuring myself out, and is compelling, thought-provoking, and entertaining as well. A taste of chaotic truth, and good medicine.
(reviewed 3 days after purchase)
D Ren reviewed on on May 2, 2011

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Rusty Shackleford reviewed on on May 1, 2011

This is one of the few books I return to again and again. Genius.
(reviewed the day of purchase)

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