on July 1, 2017 :
I decided to read Liar Detector as I like to make sure people are being honest with me. I like to make sure those I'm friends with, either as my boyfriend or friend, are good people. It's sad but I can't trust everyone I meet. So picking up a book that talks not only how to spot a liar but how to get them to say the truth was wonderful. I was not disappointed after reading it which was even better.
The book talks about why people lie. Being someone on social media, I can very well understand the need for attention. I've sometimes felt that the only people that truly appreciate me are those I meet online, which is a very dangerous thing to think. It makes you do anything to stay in your chosen group which isn't safe. There are also some people that just like the act of lying.
The only time I disagree with the reasons people lie, as described in the book, is when job interviews are mentioned. You can't say you've hated working with someone or you don't like working in groups and expect to get a job. I personally wouldn't have included job interviews in this section.
The tips on spotting a liar are accurate. Especially the physical signs. I have heard the same things from other books and one video game. It is interesting that people will show different signs of lying depending on if they are left or right handed. The fact that people make little gestures without realizing they're doing them is interesting. Before this book I would have never thought of looking at how fast or slow someone blinks. I know if someone blinks too much it's annoying, but never connected it to lying before.
People being too still being a sign of lying makes sense. Liars are afraid that they will be found out. They are afraid that you'll notice and then all their 'fun' is gone. I know when I'm trying to lie I'll get more than a little nervous. I don't do big lies but I do like to get out of situations. Such as lying about why I won't hang out with someone.
The book points out that liars will have stories that just don't add up. They make elaborate stories and can't tell the same one twice. It's really easy to spot those people. And then they sometimes provide more details than needed.
I am grateful that this book tackled liars online. This is important as social media is on the rise and problems there need to be dealt with. It's a place where liars, and worse, can hide. So it's good to figure out this new venue for people. One of the ways this book says to find liars online is to look at the status updates. Nowadays people give too much away which means spotting a lie is easy at times.
Finally the book talks about how you should confront a liar. It isn't enough that you know they're lying, after all. I like that there is focus on gathering evidence as well as how to tell the person you know they're lying.
All in all Liar Detector is a good read. It refreshed me about some things while warning me about things I had never thought about before.
(reviewed the day of purchase)