Ruby kept her feelings of anger and frustration to herself and much of her views about the war would have been considered unpatriotic if she had expressed them at that time. I could not have lived through all the bombings Ruby describes, night after night, without having a complete breakdown. What these people managed is mind-boggling to me and is a reminder of how atrocious war really is.
I was surprised about how much Ruby vented her angry feelings about her husband Ted and then when he made a sexual advance, that frequently seemed to clear things up for her; for a little while anyway. What Ruby wanted was to have a friendship that was real and rewarding with Ted and he made that impossible. Apparently he was incapable of such a relationship. People talk more openly with each other today than Ruby and Ted did in their marriage.
During her long marriage to Ted, Ruby was starved emotionally and intellectually. She satisfied her intellectual need with constant reading and by writing her truth in her diary. The emotional deprivation apparently was never satisfied and I have to wonder how many other women of this era experienced the same deprivation and just had to live with it.
Since an article about the Diaries was published in the Romford Recorder newspaper, Wendy Brice-Thompson, wife to Frederick Thompson, Ruby's grandson and first cousin to my mother, Adele Thompson Aldridge, wrote to me. Now I am connecting with Ruby in present reality. This is exciting news. It is as though Ruby were still here.
Victoria Aldridge Washuk