"Who do you think will benefit most from reading The 13 Pillars of Manliness?"
I think that a lot of men have the disadvantage of being raised without a solid, consistent male rolemodel to learn from - I was one of them. My experience growing up, as well as getting to know a lot of other budding men through school, showed me that there was a basic lack of development going on. Boys growing up to be legal men, but still being boys at heart... not knowing what I, myself, eventually learned and dubbed 'The 13 Pillars of Manliness'. When you are suddenly thrown into an adult world without the resources and traits necessary to survive as men and attract women, you live a life of confusion and repetitious suffering. I think it's these men - the ones that really just need a map to go by - that will benefit most from the book.
"Do you think the ideals layed out in your book are the only way to manliness?"
I really do, yes. There may be a few that others may differ on - a man that identifies as a submissive may not go for the pillar of embracing dominance, for instance. However, the pillars are what I have discovered to be the most reliable for attracting women, and were - historically - the traits that men needed to survive and thrive in a harsh world.
"If you could choose an excerpt from the book to give readers an idea to it's message, what would it be?"
I think it would be the entire first pillar - which is "Embrace Your Nature". The biggest thing keeping men from finding themselves and being better men is their shame in being men in the first place. I'll be frank - I think part of the problem is the influence of third wave Feminism. Equality is exceptionally important, there is no doubting that - however, I've observed men becoming less and less masculine and increasingly less dominant and proud sheerly because they are afraid that they will be accused of misogyny. I won't delve too deep into this topic, but I will say that the new form of Feminism is, I believe, one of the leading causes of the decline in the way of men. Ironically, even those that claim all men are misogynistic tend to desire the same behaviors and attitudes that they are attacking through terms like 'mansplaining'. My book is about reclaiming your masculinity and not being the watered down 'nice guy' kind of man that is encouraged but not rewarded in society.
"Do you think this book can only benefit straight men?"
Not at all. While it was written from the point of view of a straight man and thus refers to a man-woman dynamic, every single pillar can be used by a gay man desiring to be more manly and will help them as much as straight men to attract their next partner.
"Do you think women could also benefit from reading your book? If so, in what ways?"
Yes, I do. I think that some of them might be a bit taken aback by the language at times - the book is, after all, targetted at men and I, as the author, felt a need to be blunt about what those men could gain from applying what they learned. I also think some might be surprised to see a man explaining some of their more well-guarded desires when it comes to what they need and want from the men in their lives. Aside from that, I think the most important thing women could learn from this book is how to better articulate what they need. One of the hardest things, in relationships, is putting your finger on what is lacking. Since I wrote the book through my understanding of women, from my experiences and from consensus, I think that the book could awaken and put a name to the previously unnamed things women need from their men.
"What have you experienced in your life that you think has helped you learn how to be a man?"
Honestly, it was all the stumbling blocks. Every time I wasn't noticed, every time my crush didn't know I existed, every time I disappointed people by not living up to what was - unbeknownst to me - expected of me. These things happen in every man's life, but not everyone chooses to seek the answers on success. Everyone complains, but not everyone tries to change their situation. Thankfully for me, I was born stubborn and curious - my failures only motivated me to try again, learn from my mistakes and figure it all out. That game of trial and failure lead to my understanding; I wrote The 13 Pillars of Manliness hoping to provide the kind of information I was never told and had to fight hard to figure out
"Why did you choose Smashwords?"
I chose Smashwords because it provided me with the opportunity to easily make my book available on any kind of ebook reader. Not everyone has a Kindle, not everyone has a Nook. It's just smart to use a service that allows you to make things convenient to your readers.
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