Interview with Joseph P. Badame

What is your profession?
I am a 71 year old semi-retired architect, architectural engineer, and urban planner.
What type of books do you read?
I am most sorry to admit, I have never read a book from beginning to end before I wrote “I Married my Teacher.” Even then I wrote, proof read, and edited in such a haphazard way you might say I technically never read it from cover to cover as a single read. I know it is strange, but I just don’t seem to be able to read for enjoyment. It is sad. This mindset has even permeated my writing. I don’t solely write for the readers’ enjoyment but but rather for their learning as well. Every book has benign teaching imbedded in the pages. I inherited this trait from my dear wife. It is rather devious of me. Sorry.
What motivated you to start writing?
I have been fanatically in love with my late wife for 56 years. She was a remarkable woman and a master teacher. When she had a massive stroke 9 years ago, she almost died. I could not stand the thought of others not knowing of her if she did die. That encouraged me to write about her. But, I was not an author and all I could do was stare at the computer screen with no result. I did research with Phyliss, but had to abandon my endeavor.
What happened for you to try again?
Phyliss died 8 years later. That reinvigorated my previously abandoned effort. Instead of writing a book which I had proven I could not do, I wrote a sentence, then a paragraph, followed by a chapter. I selected the most enjoyable moments to write about first and saved the tragic parts for last. I continued that until I blundered my way through the entire book. It was my salvation in my days of grief. Friends enjoyed the chapters and encouraged me to work on. I am afraid I did make a pest of myself. “Oh, no, Joe just e-mailed another chapter.” I added the photographs, stumbled through the publishing process with a great deal of help, and I must say success from “Smashwords” and here I am.
I notice that you have published 17 books and they are all free. Tell me about that.
My goal was to introduce my devoted wife to as many people as possible and to offer what we learned in our 45 year marriage to others so they may benefit from our experiences. I determined the best way to do that was to write many short stories that all had their own lesson and could be read in less than half an hour to be able to fit into readers’ busy lives. By making them free, everyone could read as many as they wished regardless of their finances.
Did you really “Marry your Teacher?”
Yes, I did. Phyliss was my eighth grade English and Spanish teacher. Really. I was in love from day one. She took a little longer. It is a most unusual love story with humor, wisdom, and sadness – a slice of life.
What are your plans for the future?
I hope to continue writing as long as I am able and the reading public responds. I enjoy it immensely. I love tracking the interest in the books. With every download, I tell myself, “There is another person who now knows how remarkable Phyliss was.” That warms my heart.
What is your biggest disapointment about authoring?
Being a novice author, I feel I have been writing somewhat in a vacuum. It would be so uplifting to have some reviews praising my work (hint, hint readers) or for that matter constructive criticism would go a long way to improving the final product or the next book. Smashwords makes it so easy to modify a manuscript, the book could be improved greatly from readers comments. My belief is, why take the time to write if no one is learning something or being entertained? Other than the number of reads, the only way an author can measure success is feedback from kind and concerned readers. Just a thought from an old horse trying to learn a new trick before he leaves Earth.
You seem so sincere about wanting to help others in their relationships.
Yes, I am. But, I tell my readers, if they are able to glean even a little wisdom from the books, they should thank Phyliss and not me, for I am her creation.
Published 2015-01-09.
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Books by This Author

My Lunch at Chick-Fil-A
Price: Free! Words: 4,300. Language: English. Published: December 28, 2016. Categories: Nonfiction » Social Science » Discrimination & Race Relations
A majority of Americans enjoy eating a quick meal at a reasonable price. The ten’s of thousands of fast food establishments around the country are testament to that assertion. However, few who dine realize that the experience can provide more than just a hasty meal for little money. There is a greater awareness that can be gleaned from a speedy experience if we just take a minute to observe.
Merry Christmas Mum and Dad
Price: Free! Words: 1,930. Language: English. Published: December 16, 2016. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Parenting / parent & adult child
(5.00)
Inside is a simple, unusual, and loving gift to show Mom and Dad that you love them. Take a look.
Who Am I ????
Price: Free! Words: 3,820. Language: English. Published: July 10, 2016. Categories: Nonfiction » Politics and Current Affairs » Democracy
Everyone likes a puzzle. Solving it is a challenge - a test of one’s abilities. The problem with puzzles, however, is that they accomplish nothing – pure entertainment – not a very worthy endeavor when there is so much to do and learn. This puzzle is not enormously challenging as puzzles go. But, it is dead serious. Hopefully, it will make you think. It won’t take long.
The Nightmare and the Chubby Cups
Price: Free! Words: 2,120. Language: English. Published: November 11, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Family relationships
It is fascinating how dreams intertwine themselves with our conscious lives. This is one such case where it is difficult to tell where they each begin and end. Give it a try. It will only take a few minutes of your time, but I am so sorry, it won’t help you go to sleep. You will have to read something else for that. This tale is just for tea lovers. Sorry, you “Starbucks” fans.
Tiny Rain Drops
Price: Free! Words: 11,790. Language: English. Published: October 27, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Marriage
We race everywhere with our heads buried in our cell phones. What is in these monsters that is so important? Real people might as well be the wallpaper. This short story is an attempt to return us to the joys of interacting with real people through everyday happenings, especially with those we claim to love the most. Give it a try, while they are still here, you might like it.
Washing the Dishes
Price: Free! Words: 3,110. Language: English. Published: September 19, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Marriage
(4.00)
This vignette is a short tale with a quite strange title. It is a story for married folks. It is particularly meant for couples busily racing through life doing “important stuff” and missing the paradise that marriage can be. What can an activity as repulsive and mundane as washing dishes possibly have to do with love and happiness? Read it and see – 10 minutes and no money.
The Magic of a Master Teacher
Price: Free! Words: 15,610. Language: English. Published: August 15, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Inspiration » Personal inspiration, Nonfiction » Education and Study Guides » Teaching
(5.00)
This is the tale of the career of one master teacher whose excellence and dedication caused each of her students to perform to the best of his or her abilities and become stellar members of our society. How sad it would be to let the significance of her life be lost to future generations. The recounting of her story is an attempt to not allow that to happen.
Life Is Good, For Some
Price: Free! Words: 11,840. Language: English. Published: May 26, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Family health
The quality of a family’s social interactions with friends can be positively or negatively affected by a tragedy. What seems to determine the negative or positive course of the change is whether the social relationship was established before or after the misfortune occurred.
Home Alone with Phyliss
Price: Free! Words: 12,050. Language: English. Published: May 25, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Family relationships
It seems most ironic that something I had desperately wished for from a very early age, aggressively pursued for a decade, and finally achieved, had now become a source of anxiety, fear, and angst - being at home alone with Phyliss. The mere suggestion, a few months before, that this dread would be credible, appeared to be a preposterous supposition. Yet, here it was, a reality.
The Way We Were
Price: Free! Words: 15,130. Language: English. Published: May 24, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Parenting
(5.00)
Raising children with values of responsibility, respect, compassion, and industry is a goal of most parents. Finding the right tools and examples to achieve this goal is not entirely easy today. This seemingly difficult task may be able to be accomplished by recounting and applying the lessons of relatively simple events in three summers of a young boy’s life.
The Last Mothers' Day
Price: Free! Words: 1,580. Language: English. Published: May 3, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Motherhood
Mothers’ Day is a good thing. Mothers should be honored. But, this should be the last Mothers’ Day.
Janet Devlin
Price: Free! Words: 10,190. Language: English. Published: May 2, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Music » Pop Vocal
In 2011, a young lady abruptly and unexpectedly came on to the world music scene after appearing on a well-known talent discovery television program which had been airing for a number of years. The young lady was Miss Janet Maureen Aoife Ne Devlin. Just another pop singer? Not quite.
The Man of No
Price: Free! Words: 10,100. Language: English. Published: April 26, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Health, wellbeing, & medicine » Family health
Caring for a loved one with a long term illness at home is a physical, financial, and emotional challenge of the highest order. It is deadly and it can kill you both. It may be the biggest test of your lives. But, nothing equals the realization that some things cannot be fixed. You eventually become the “The Man of No.”
Cruising with a Disabled Loved One
Price: Free! Words: 10,870. Language: English. Published: April 25, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Travel » Cruises
A cruise can be a wonderful therapy for a spouse who becomes disabled, especially from a stroke. It can have many healing powers and be of great assistance to recovery. But, let’s not rush into it. Read this story before you embark on this adventure. Use it as a guide to inform and to determine if it is right for you and your spouse.
The Power of Writing and Never Letting Go
Price: Free! Words: 10,610. Language: English. Published: April 16, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Emotions
Losing a loved one is always difficult. Recovering from the loss is even more difficult, sometimes impossible. Many times, calling on every resource is required to be successful. It might be necessary to create your own method for healing. This is one unusual technique that was quite effective for me. It might be useful to others.
Screams!
Price: Free! Words: 7,900. Language: English. Published: April 12, 2015. Categories: Fiction » Horror » General
(5.00)
Everyone enjoys a little scary fiction. This short story is not all that scary, but presents a little humor and wisdom as well - three for the price of one. Oh, that’s right it’s free. Well, read it anyway. You have nothing to lose but 15 minutes.
A Message from Heaven
Price: Free! Words: 12,450. Language: English. Published: March 24, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Inspiration » Personal inspiration
(5.00)
Over a year ago, I knew my dear husband would be suffering today. I just did not realize how much. I wrote this letter to ease his pain. It might ease yours, as well.
Our Peace Corps Adventure in Tunisia
Price: Free! Words: 25,860. Language: English. Published: March 20, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Inspiration » Personal inspiration
This story of an American Peace Corps couple in Tunisia provides a window into the not-so-distant past of how individuals of dissimilar groups were able to live in friendship, harmony, and even love. It is hoped that it will awaken us to how far we have wandered from the goodness of that time and question how our leaders have allowed or even caused the hatred and conflict among our cultures.
The Death of the Love of my Life
Price: Free! Words: 13,360. Language: English. Published: January 8, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Inspiration » Personal inspiration
The death of a loved one is never easy. It is particularly difficult when it comes at the end of a fifty-six year long love affair filled with affection and hardship as well. Regardless of how inevitable, it is never expected. Through a heartbreaking rendition of the passing of his wife the author hopes to instill the necessity for every couple to live every moment as if it will be the last.
Intimacy and Disability
Price: Free! Words: 6,690. Language: English. Published: January 6, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Health, wellbeing, & medicine » Sexual health
A calamity resulting in disability can be devastating. Traditional medicine deals well with the physical consequences and some of the emotional trauma. Almost never is the impact on “Intimacy” addressed. Patients are released from rehabilitation without any idea of the problems or their solutions. I hope this presentation of my experiences will help with the trials of those afflicted.
I Give Up - You Win - A Glimpse into the Character of Man
Price: Free! Words: 8,400. Language: English. Published: December 30, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Publishing » Self-publishing
I have written fourteen books and short stories over the past three months. All have been informative and free. I received one review from 1150 downloads. This short story attempts to understand the phenomenon and solicit feedback from the readership to help improve my writing prowess.
The Gifts
Price: Free! Words: 13,580. Language: English. Published: December 18, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Inspiration » Personal inspiration
Gifting has become mundane, mechanical, and commercialized. Philanthropy by giving objects has become the norm. The story takes us back to a time when gifts were deeds. Return to those times by rethinking your idea of rewarding someone you care about with a blessing that will not be forgotten rather than an article that will. Follow this unusual journey that may take you to a better place.
No Thanks! - Judy's Story, Not an Unusual Tale
Price: Free! Words: 10,920. Language: English. Published: December 8, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Parenting » Family tragedy
Every parent and guardian should read this tale of the growth of ungratefulness shown by many of our younger generation - thanklessness that appears despite copious kindness that was shown to them over the years. It suggests that sinister forces outside the family promulgate this disturbing behavior. More disturbing yet is the realization that the origin of the conduct may be of our own doing.
My Dear Was, Oh, So Much Sweeter Than Sugar - Diabetes: The Orgy Of Sweets
Price: Free! Words: 6,920. Language: English. Published: November 29, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Inspiration » Personal inspiration
This short story is a continuation of my life-long love affair with Phyliss, my late wife. In this tale I tell of her devotion to me in managing my affliction with diabetes so I didn’t have to. It was remarkable self-sacrificing act of devotedness and affection rarely seen in or out of marriage. The story is true and inspiring.
“Daddy, mommy! Are you awake? Are you awake, yet?!”
Price: Free! Words: 9,650. Language: English. Published: November 26, 2014. Categories: Fiction » Historical » USA
This allegory is based on two children who live near each other in a rural setting. Halfway between their two houses is a huge oak tree planted several hundred years before by one of their ancestors. The tree becomes a centerpiece of their lives and the foundation of a deep friendship. Their bucolic world of camaraderie is destroyed when greed invades their private world and tragedy ensues.
Life's Little Book for a Happy Marriage
Price: Free! Words: 38,860. Language: English. Published: November 20, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Marriage
NEW EXPANDED EDITION There are many books that give advice about how to have a fruitful marriage. But, this is one of the only ones I know that comes with a money back guarantee. Follow these simple guide lines and if your marriage is not happy, you can get every penny you paid returned, no questions asked. Oh, that’s right, it’s free. Sorry.
Our Moment - Falling In Love Again
Price: Free! Words: 7,760. Language: English. Published: November 15, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Marriage
You lovers all have special moments in your love life, but you usually don’t think about what “the” most special moment was. In fact, each of you may have a different moment. I gave it a great deal of thought. I would like to share what that moment was for me. It might just encourage you to rethink what your moment was.
Claustrophobia, Get Professional Help, Joe
Price: Free! Words: 8,590. Language: English. Published: November 12, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Health, wellbeing, & medicine » Healthcare issues
This short story exposes some of the difficulties in relying on our health care system for the correction of psychological disorders, in this case claustrophobia and its related anxiety and panic. It does so by relating one person’s unsuccessful journey to find a treatment.
The Cookie and the Dandelions
Price: Free! Words: 10,720. Language: English. Published: November 11, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Family relationships
Joseph was a young boy who had “Miss Crudo” as his teacher for the eight and ninth grades. Their association turned from student and teacher to friendship and then the friendship became more than friendship. This is a continuation of "The Last Day of School."
Our Marriage in Saint Peter's Basilica
Price: Free! Words: 10,230. Language: English. Published: November 10, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Marriage
A teacher and former student were in love for years. She was his senior by sixteen years. Over the years, they denied themselves marriage because of their ages and their circumstances. Suddenly, neither seemed to matter as they embarked on a fairy tale union. It is an endearing and true adventure of the devotion and determination of two people in love.
My One Grand Regret - Free Words of Advice That One Day You May Find to be a Priceless Gift.
Price: Free! Words: 10,770. Language: English. Published: November 8, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Family relationships
At a funeral family is mourning the loss of their departed. Usually the mourning is for regret, not the loss. The loss will fade but the regret will not because the finality of death is such that the regret can never be reconciled. This short story may help avoid those regrets when the time comes into your life. Only a fool learns from his own mistakes. Don’t be a fool, learn from mine.
Our First Kiss - Our Last Kiss
Price: Free! Words: 7,960. Language: English. Published: November 8, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Family relationships
A chance series of events brings two souls together as a teacher and a student with a sixteen year age difference. Friendship turns to love and they eventually marry for forty-five years. The endearing short story describes their joyful first kiss and their sorrowful last kiss.
The Last Day of School - The First Day of Us
Price: Free! Words: 8,390. Language: English. Published: November 7, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Friendship
Joseph was a young boy who had “Miss Crudo” as his teacher for the eight and ninth grades. Their association turned from student and teacher to friendship and then, well you will have to read the story to see where the friendship goes from there.
Hugs and Kisses
Price: Free! Words: 10,410. Language: English. Published: November 3, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Marriage
This is a bittersweet vignette of love and lost opportunity - a monumental lesson learned about life's priorities.
My Teacher, My Bride
Price: Free! Words: 237,560. Language: English. Published: October 9, 2014. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships and Family » Marriage, Nonfiction » Inspiration » Personal inspiration
New Photos!! This is a true story of an endearing, lifelong love affair, born in a most unexpected and unconventional manner and place. It is the story of a most remarkable woman. You never heard of her, but maybe you should have. It is not a love story filled only with the happiness of Camelot, but the celebration of her remarkable life and spirit and the many trials of her time on earth.