Interview with Kenny Bodanis

What motivated you to write a parenting book?
I knew, as soon as we decided we wanted kids, that I was going to be a very involved father. That included being as plugged-in and hands-on as I could--even during my wife's pregnancy--given I was NOT the one having the baby. I so badly wanted talk through the things that scared me, the things I was excited about, and how similar I felt my experience was to what other expectant MOTHER's were saying. But, at the same time, I felt it was hard to find my place around that table without someone saying "YOU'RE worried and tired?! You're not the one pushing a watermelon through a pigeon hole."
They were right. But I was still feeling what I was feeling. So, the best (and safest) place to express that was by writing a book!
What makes this different from other parenting books by dads?
I try to take comparison out of the equation. I think a big mistake a lot of people make is trying to one-up each other: Who is more uncomfortable? Who is more tired? Who is more worried about becoming a first-time parent?
In reality, moms and dads are each having an experience which in incomparable to anything else they will EVER go through again in their lives. It's important to change the point of view that men simply fumble their way towards fatherhood. Yes, there may be some fumbling, but it's because we want just as badly as women to be successful parents with happy kids! That's enough to make ANY parent-to-be queasy in the morning:)
What is the greatest joy of writing for you?
Without a doubt, it's walking away from the computer at the end of the day knowing I've created another part of my story. Blogging is great, in that it gives you instant satisfaction, but writing a book really allowed me to develop a point of view, and to properly express--through a year-long storyline--what becoming a parent was like for me (and, I imagine, for many men).
That being said, beginning from scratch for the sequel has been daunting!! (Still not as daunting as parenting, however.)
What do your fans mean to you?
It thrills me ANY time a single person buys a book. The fact that someone is interested is reading what I had to write, and is willing to put aside that amount of time to invest in my experience is the ultimate form of flattery. It is absolutely what encourages me to talk and write more about my experience as a parent. I think that, together, readers and writers support each other, never more-so than as moms and dads thinking we're alone within a given situation and then finding out there are so many others out there experiencing exactly the same thing.
What are you working on next?
This was written before I had ANY children. Now I have two, BOTH of whom are already in elementary school! I've toyed with the sequel dealing with my son as a toddler--the 2 years before my daughter came along. But I'm worried at that pace I'll be a grandparent before I get a chance to write about raising teenagers. So, I think the sequel will have to squeeze the second child in there (pardon the pun!).
Who are your favorite authors?
I absolutely gravitate toward popular fiction. I lose myself in Grisham and King. John Sandford and his 'Prey' series got me absolutely hooked. I will, three or four time a year, gravitate to non-fiction for a change of pace. When I do, it's usually biography or history oriented with a slant towards WWII or the American Civil War. I only recently realized I've never read Norman Mailer, so, that's on my holiday list for sure.
What inspires you to get out of bed each day?
The sixty minutes at the end of the day with my wife after my kids are in bed!
Seriously, I'm a believer in short-term goals, and always having something to look forward to in the near future. It could be as grand as a vacation, or just a day trip with the family. With everything being so busy, even gathering only the four of us around a dinner table can be a treat.
When you're not writing, how do you spend your time?
I try to be a runner. Although I seem to go through a 7-months-on, 7-months-off regime. I work towards a half-marathon with great vigor, but then always get distracted once it's over and can't seem to keep up the workouts (writing certainly contributes to that!).
When I'm off running, movies are certainly my are the potato chips that go with them.
How do you discover the ebooks you read?
Usually through browsing or recommendations. If I know we're headed out of town, I definitely devote time to shopping for a few books. I think that is one of the great features of ebooks: cramming a dozen of them onto this little console you can have in your carry-on. (My second favorite selling point is being able to read with one hand...and have a cup of coffee in the other.)
Do you remember the first story you ever wrote?
Yes! Well, I remember the first story which was ever published (in a school booklet). It was a one-act play called "Tattoo Me". It was about a women getting a tattoo in order to rebel against her family. She ends up having a conversation with the tatttoo artist about her reasons for getting it, and what she hoped it would prove to others. Funny, I can't remember how it ends! (P.S. I have no tattoos.)
What is your writing process?
Before becoming a parent, it was much easier.
Now, my wife and I actually pull out the calendar and schedule time for writing. I will put aside at least one FULL day a week, as well as shorter pockets sprinkled throughout.
I find blogging is a big commitment as well--just maintaining a profile, publishing, and answering comments seems to take up as much (if not more) time as writing itself.
Long form is easier, that way. You just sit, and write!
Published 2013-11-24.
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Books by This Author

What Do I Do While You're Pregnant?
Price: $0.99 USD. Words: 55,440. Language: English. Published: December 3, 2013. Categories: Nonfiction » Parenting » Pregnancy & Child Birth
What Do I Do While You're Pregnant? is an honest and touching book by a dad-to-be wrestling to find his place. He balances news of his possible infertility and his pregnant wife's medical emergencies with his own phantoms symptoms and sleepless nights. This funny and poignant story respects an experience which is unique to both first-time parents.