It is the creative non-fiction telling of my personal tale of starting submission. It details our first year transitioning from a vanilla marriage to a Dominant and submissive one. It also goes into depth about the emotional, physical, and sexual transformation that happens when you begin exploring kink.
When did you first start writing?
I was always one of those people who would get inspired to journal, buy a new pad and special pen, and diligently write... for three days. Once I began my path in submission, time and again was the suggestion to journal as a way of communicating with your partner and honestly, yourself. I dropped my preconceived notions of what writing was "supposed" to look like I started journaling on my terms.
It became a fluid process. I wrote to purge my experience, to record fond memories I wanted to remember for life, I wrote when I had something to share. The more I publically wrote, the more people responded with similar experiences, and the more camaraderie felt in my path. I write in the hopes that I can in some small way offer support and encouragement to others walking in a similar path.
What is your writing process?
I write when I can't not write. When it is urgent, when I must say something. When I wake up at 2 am with a tale to tell or an emotion to get out of me.
I can write anywhere, anytime, any place. I often write at a coffee shop with ear buds in and music turned way up.
What is the greatest joy of writing for you?
Relating to others who are walking a similar path in the world. Encouraging others to live life the way they want, not the way society may dictate for them.
Describe your desk.
I float around on my laptop wherever the wind takes me. No real desk to speak of!
What are you working on next?
I am working on the next part of the Darling story (my story) which is our transition from Dominant and submissive to Master and slave. The tentative working title is Darling Enslaved. Though because I am living the tale that I tell, it takes me quite some time to get my work to where I want it.
In the meantime I blog, journal, and write short non-fiction about BDSM.
When you're not writing, how do you spend your time?
I love anything homemaking. I always have projects to tend to and errands to run. I am an avid cook and baker, I sew, I craft and paint, I help others. I love being physically fit and exercise every day: yoga and pilates, jogging, strength training, walking along the beach. I also help my husband with his work when needed. He runs his own business and I am his own personal secretary and marketing guru.
What inspires you to get out of bed each day?
My family. I love my little life and little family and they bring me the greatest joy. To back my husband and children up as they grow and learn and succeed, well, that to me is heaven on earth.
And coffee. A big ol' pot of black coffee.
Do you remember the first story you ever read, and the impact it had on you?
I remember vividly reading my first book at a young age. It was if the door to a whole new world had opened up for me. I have been reading, non-stop, ever since.
What advice do you have for somebody newly interested in BDSM?
Take it slow. That sounds so trite, but truly. There is no race, no finish line, no trophy for successfully completing "kink." It is a lifetime experience and in the beginning it can be so tempting to try anything and everyone. Be safe. Be aware. Learn. Read.
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