Interview with Nicholl McGuire

What is your writing process?
First of all, I have to be inspired by someone, something, or a personal feeling to write. There are times when I will meditate and pray. My muse will come sometimes spiritually, it is in that moment that there is an overwhelming drive to sit before the computer and type. The plan may come before the free writing or reverse. At this stage I don't think about proofreading or editing, I just write. After I have written everything that comes to mind, I read the work. The ideas can come so fast that I forget what I typed. Afterward, the organizing and research begins. I continue to write and then end with much revision and editing before publishing. My process starts off very spiritual and then mellows as I formulate my thoughts aided by my Creator.
Do you remember the first story you ever read, and the impact it had on you?
Yes, Maya Angelou's "I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings." She was bold enough to share a glimpse of her childhood. I liked that but when I was 19 years old reading that book (and others by her) I wasn't ready to expose myself and those who impacted me. As I matured, my intentions over the years with my work was to take the knowledge and experience I obtained and teach. Therefore, I have taken the bird out of the cage and set her free--no longer restricted by what people might say or think. I answer to no civic groups, religious institutions, or relatives. I am respectful of others and cautious about content, but truth always prevails in the writing.
How do you approach cover design?
I ask myself, "What colors, design, and other related things will make the most impact while achieving my purpose for the book?" So if my purpose is to reach women between the ages of 20-30, single with relationship trouble, I'm not going with colors and designs that don't appeal to their pain. Sometimes the book cover just comes to mind like having a dream. I awake and either do it myself or have a graphic artist design the cover for me based on my vision. I enlisted the help of an assistant for "Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men" and "Tell Me Mother You're Sorry" (exclusively designed for Smashword's audience).
What do you read for pleasure?
Articles about Hollyweird (Hollywood). I like to laugh, cry, and get mad about some of the things that the artists do and say from time to time.
What is your e-reading device of choice?
Kindle, the second type that was invented. I like my reading experience to be simple. Amazon can upgrade all they want, but I am quite satisfied with what I have.
What book marketing techniques have been most effective for you?
Video marketing with young people and reading excerpts out of my book. I noticed that my numbers went up on another website when I stopped sitting in front of the camera. Sometimes I guess people don't like an intense look, a certain style of dress, facial expression, etc. still trying to figure consumer behavior out. My best numbers happened when I had my other books in hand readily available for purchase.
Describe your desk
A section with small yellow notes related to personal household tasks, another section with medium size miscellaneous notes, an area that has assorted paper placed directly in the center which are my priorities and off to the left a section of future things to do. When tasks are completed in the trash they go. In between those sections are two computers, a book and paper stand, a desk lamp organizer and a post it holder with pen. The pull-out drawer has my calendar and other useful information. Anyone who walks by can see there is an order to how I do things. I am strict when it comes to my pens and notebooks.
Where did you grow up, and how did this influence your writing?
Pittsburgh Pa. I wasn't always happy in a suburb I grew up in because my parents were authoritative types, so social life outside of school was non-existent for years. Writing provided me with an escape--I felt in control. When I was a child and teen, I was an unpublished fiction writer. I hope to one day return to my roots. In the meantime, I pen every now and then poems and write rap songs.
When did you first start writing?
I started writing poems when I was 7 and around 8 I penned a brief autobiography. At 15, I wrote my first news stories for the school newsletter and by 22 I created my own publication and distributed around the community.
What's the story behind your latest book?
Repressed memories started showing up after the death of my grandmother (May 2015). I started seeing visions and hearing those old disputes between her, grandchildren, sons, and others. I remembered her seated at tables advising women or talking to them on the phone. I started recalling memories of male relatives and sometimes their partners acting strangely during family functions and other times. It was then that I noticed that many of my kin had dark sides. I began to reflect on abusive experiences I endured with a couple of partners (one emotionally abusive and the other physically). The result: "Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men."
What motivated you to become an indie author?
I realized many years ago that if one waited for a company to select your work, you would be waiting a long time. I heard far too many stories of people dying and never publishing their work because it wasn't good enough (punctuation, grammar, etc.) I noticed I was acting like a perfectionist too. So work was just sitting on computers, on disks, and in notebooks never seeing the light of day. I felt compelled to do something. Becoming an indie or self-published author was the best decision I made--life is too short. So excuse any errors you might find, I did the best I could with my journalism and communications experience and limited budget.
What are you working on next?
I am getting out of the people zone (writing about folks and their shortcomings while warning others); instead, I am on to writing about things and my experiences connected with them. So stay tuned!
What inspires you to get out of bed each day?
Curiosity and personal faith. I know I have a purpose in this life and so I keep going.
When you're not writing, how do you spend your time?
Listening to music, singing, periodically painting with acrylics, organizing, reading non-fiction, and watching documentaries.
Published 2015-10-02.
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Books by This Author

Face Your Foe On Confronting The Critics
Price: $3.99 USD. Words: 94,990. Language: American English. Published: June 9, 2017. Categories: Nonfiction » Self-improvement » Religion & self-improvement, Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Family relationships
You are not alone when dealing with critical people. Some face them, others don't. This book is for the one who is tired of avoiding conflict, it is time to face your foe! Know who and what is keeping your mouth closed and feet still. Learn more about one's enemy before the confrontation. Book provides scriptures for further study. Written by a wife, mother, author, teacher, & spiritual speaker.
What Else Can I Do on the Internet?
Price: $4.99 USD. Words: 46,150. Language: American English. Published: March 29, 2016. Categories: Nonfiction » Computers & Internet » Internet
You want to do more with your Internet experiences? From online communication to personal life challenges, how do you find out more? This reference guide created by inspirational speaker and author Nicholl McGuire is a powerful idea generator taking your online searches to the next level while helping you find many useful websites you didn't even know existed. Enhance your online skills today!
Too Much Too Soon Internet Dating Blues
Price: $3.99 USD. Words: 32,260. Language: American English. Published: February 17, 2016. Categories: Nonfiction » Sex & Relationships  » Sex & culture, Nonfiction » Computers & Internet » Internet
Your Internet date turned committed partner or soon-to-be is really not what you had in mind. In "Too Much Too Soon Internet Dating Blues," author Nicholl McGuire provokes thought about what it really means to slow things down with an online date, manage emotions and connect with who you really want. It is no longer fun to meet people online if the offline connection is lost.
Black Friday Cyber Monday Strategies to Use Year Round
Price: $2.99 USD. Words: 13,480. Language: American English. Published: November 29, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » General reference » Questions & answers, Nonfiction » Business & Economics » Personal finance
Holiday shopping can be burdensome especially when you don't have a clue what is really on sale, whether Black Friday, Cyber Monday and other store promotions are a good time to buy and more. In this handy guide by Author Nicholl McGuire, she provides useful tips to help you come away with some great purchases while saving money too!
Should I Go to the Party
Price: $4.95 USD. Words: 11,110. Language: American English. Published: November 25, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Family relationships, Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Family activities
When it comes to the holiday invitation to family dinner, Author Nicholl McGuire sheds some light on a topic that gives people much anxiety, "Should I go?" In this helpful guide, the wife and mother of four discusses what you can do to ease the stress of whether you should sit this one out or go for it this holiday season. Make peace not war in your home when it comes to family related events.
She's Crazy
Price: $4.95 USD. Words: 29,980. Language: American English. Published: November 23, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Abuse / domestic partner abuse, Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Dating
She's crazy there is no doubt about it. But you stick around hoping she will change. You have tried to connect with your wife, girlfriend, or date, but something is wrong! She hits, slaps, throws things, and curses making you feel nervous and confused. Non-fiction author Nicholl McGuire shines the light on abusive women and provides counsel, wisdom, stories and tips to help battered men.
Genealogy X What to Expect When Researching Family History
Price: $2.99 USD. Words: 19,710. Language: Simple English. Published: October 24, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » History » Family history
What you don't know just might hurt you when it comes to piecing together family history. Researching genealogy ties can be fun and exciting, but it can also be overwhelming when motivation is lost and relatives aren't forthcoming with pertinent details. Author, Speaker and Virtual Assistant Nicholl McGuire shares practical tips and family history experience. Be inspired to tackle your roots!
Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men
Price: $4.99 USD. Words: 56,950. Language: Simple English. Published: September 22, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Dysfunctional relationships, Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Abuse / domestic partner abuse
What is it about those men who knock us off our feet? They are so charming at first, but in time they change. Before long, they end up being our worst nightmares! Nicholl McGuire shares some lessons learned from her abusive experience, warning signs for single and divorced women, and spiritual wisdom. Find out how you can avoid socially sweet, privately cruel men both on and off the Internet.
Say Goodbye to Dad - A Survival Guide to Breaking Free from Toxic Emotional Ties
Price: $7.99 USD. Words: 66,190. Language: Simple English. Published: August 30, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Family relationships, Nonfiction » Self-improvement » Abuse
He doesn't talk, he's nonchalant, and selfish. The world revolves around a father in or out of your life. No room for needy sons and daughters. No commitment to Baby Mamas. No love to replace the hate this man feels when he just didn't want to be a Dad. So what do you do? Cry yourself to sleep, beg for a relationship, or hurt others? It's time to "Say Goodbye to Dad" and the ties that bind!
Tell Me Mother You're Sorry
Price: $9.99 USD. Words: 72,000. Language: Simple English. Published: June 12, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Family relationships, Nonfiction » Self-improvement » Confidence & self-esteem
Have you ever felt suffocated by your own mother, stepmother or in-laws? Difficult mothers can be a challenge! In the book by author, Nicholl McGuire, "Tell Me Mother You're Sorry", you will learn about the mental games controlling mothers play to get their way, how you can beat them at their own games, and why it is important to go low contact or no contact from these narcissistic women.