Interview with Sandy Brosam

What motivated you to become an indie author?
Over the years I have helped others with grief support, and when ebooks started getting more popular, I wanted to make my book available to others in this format. When I looked at reprinting the original version of Love & Courage, I wanted to add more information. So I decided since I had to retype the entire book as no computer uses or reads a 6" floppy disk, I would add some content to help with grief. Becoming Bigger Than Our Pain is about how to help someone grieving, or yourself. I help others in my daily life, but wanted a way to help many others with ebooks and print.
What inspires you to get out of bed each day?
Living my entire adult life with grief, I have grown to live in the moment, knowing full well this may be my last day, so why not make it a good one! I plan for the future, but I live in the present, and choose to find joy in my life verses sadness. I have learned to smile because I had my children in my life who passed before me, and remember the love, rather than to keep crying because they are gone from my arms, as they are still in my heart.

Life is a journey, and I truly believe we draw to us what we focus on the most. When I was so deeply engulfed in my grief, I saw no reason to even think I would ever be happy again. I continued to draw pain and suffering into my heart and soul until I was finally strong enough to move forward.
When you're not writing, how do you spend your time?
I have a large flower garden, and it gives me peace to work in it, and sit on my patio and enjoy all the bright colors and smells. I have a busy family life, and enjoy creating designs and artwork for my son's business. I have a side by side off road vehicle that we take to the Oregon Dunes to ride. I love to sit out in the dunes and watch the sunset over the beach, it is so beautiful and relaxing. I love to walk on the beach and feel at one with nature as the waves wash upon my feet.
Do you remember the first story you ever read, and the impact it had on you?
Maybe not the first, but I loved Nancy Drew in grade school, I had every book in the series. They were mystery, detective books that kept me interested thru the entire book. They helped me to realize things are not always as it seems.
What is your writing process?
I am an emotional writer, I could never just sit at a desk and write. I start with an outline, and then go from there. I am not too organized, so I have many re-writes to get my books done. My best ideas come to me in the shower...(why is that?)
Describe your desk
Always cluttered!
Where did you grow up, and how did this influence your writing?
I grew up in a small town in Eastern Washington. I did not live on a farm, but most of my friends did. I grew up as a country girl, not wanting the fast paced city life, my dream was the house with the picket fence, 2 kids and a dog in the yard.

I was working on that dream when I wrecked my car at age 21. My 2 year old son died, I was 5 months pregnant with my daughter, who survived. Everything changed that day, and grief has influenced my life in everything I do.

I eventually moved to a bigger city, but only on the outskirts, as I am still a country girl of sorts. So my writing style is country with a little city added in.
What do your fans mean to you?
It means a great deal to have someone tell me that my book has helped them on their grief journey. My sole intent is to do just that, helping others and paying the love forward.
How do you approach cover design?
I put many elements in the cover design for Becoming Bigger Than Our Pain, it started with the purple sunset off the deck of my best friends family condo in Hawaii. Then I added the family walking on the beach, who could be anyones family, and I show them stepping back into life on the pavement. I wanted to show healing, and support and beauty.
What are you working on next?
I am working on a bio, my life has been eventful to say the least. I have had some crazy events in my life off-setting extreme grief. I have some health issues, and now have a electronic neurostim implanted in my body for pain control, that has to be recharged by plugging in, my daughter calls me robomom. It makes things interesting when I travel, the wires show in xrays, I get special attention at the airport!
Published 2013-08-31.
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Books by This Author

Becoming Bigger Than Our Pain - Thru Love & Courage
Price: $6.99 USD. Words: 29,200. Language: English. Published: August 31, 2013. Categories: Nonfiction » Self-improvement » Death, Grief, Bereavement, Nonfiction » Inspiration » General self-help
What to say and do for those who are coping with a life threatening situation or death of a loved one. Sometime in your life either you, or someone close to you, will lose someone they love. This is a guide that not only gives you suggestions on what to say and do for others, it empowers you to become bigger than your own pain. This guide is about grief support from any loss.