I taught health education at the high school level for 33 years. In order to do that job better, I became certified in Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT). I used that training to develop a whole new approach to health education called "The ABC System of Cognitive, Emotional and Behavioral Self-management and Self-improvement". I now call that approach "The Mental and Emotional Tool Kit for Life".
Since retiring from the classroom in 2007, I have been speaking at state and national convention in my field, to high school and college students about the "tool kit" approach. I have also presented to student teachers at many college campuses.
I teach a number of graduate classes for teachers based on the "tool kit" approach through the International Renewal Institute - St. Xavier University consortium.
I run "Tool Time" groups for some of the most troubled and troublesome students at a local high school near my home in northern Illinois.
I advocate for adding these "tools" to the education all our young people now receive in school all across the country. I also advocate that the "tools" be added to teacher preparation programs in colleges and universities.
I am available to do presentations and workshops on the "Mental and Emotional Tool Kit for Life" for schools, colleges, groups and businesses.
There are a lot of books about how to manage stress better. The strategies other books give do help lower stress. However, they are often what therapists call "band aids" that only give temporary relief, and only while you're doing them. There's a difference between temporarily feeling better, and getting better. Getting better means permanently reducing stress. This book shows you how.
Most people live their lives based on a big lie, and don't realize it. That lie is that what other people say and do, and what happens makes them feel the way they do. Believing that lie causes people to feel worse than they need to, and to miss many opportunities to feel better. Learn the truth about how feelings come about, the choices you really have, and how to use those to feel better.
Most people don't really understand exactly why they feel bad, and because of that, don't realize just how easy it can be to feel better. This book is intended to do exactly what it says, give you a quick way to tune yourself up emotionally so that your life can run smoother. There are 8 simple steps you can take to start feeling a whole lot better quickly. They are steps anyone can take.
No one can hurt our feelings. That's semantic and scientific nonsense. The truth is that it's what we choose to think about others and what they say or do that really determines how we feel, be it hurt or anything else. I will teach you how to use the power of choice to earn the equivalent of a black belt in Mental and Emotional Karate and stop being a victim of others comments or actions.
At times, we all have more emotion than we'd like to have. It often causes us to make mistakes with other people. For some, it gives purpose to unhealthy, self-defeating behavior that they struggle to stop engaging in. Generating emotion is part of being human, but it's not some inevitable product of what happens to us. We can learn to generate less emotion. This book will show you how to.
Parenting and teaching can be tough. It's easy to generate more emotion than is helpful and make mistakes, especially with the most troubled and troublesome young people. This book was written by a health education teacher who became certified in cognitive behavioral therapy to better understand and help students, and ended up helping himself in the process. He can help you do all three things.