Valerie

Biography

Valerie was born in Seattle, Washington in 1945 during a time when abuse was treated as a family secret; never to be spoken of outside the home. Unable to subscribe to the 'silence rules' society demanded of her, Valerie became the anti-Christ figure in her family. She was viewed as the problem, not her father, the abuser. The third of six daughters, Valerie found herself alone in her struggle to stop her father's abuse. Her mother was oblivious to the horror Valerie experienced, and refused to acknowledge her pain. Her sisters viewed her as a thorn in their side and eventually cast her aside as an unwanted trouble maker. As a child of abuse, Valerie followed the all too familiar path most abused children find themselves on. She became an angry, rebellious child and teenager, a promiscuous alcoholic and drug addict as an adult. She suffered several mental maladies from the abuse and lack of support, such as stress related seizures, gaps in time, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder resulting in numerous hospitalizations. Left to raise herself, Valerie made numerous poor choices that resulted in an inability to maintain a lasting relationship and a failed marriage. Unable to hold down a job, Valerie became an escort and eventually went to work for the Seattle Police Department and US Treasury Department as an undercover agent. While working undercover, she was diagnosed with breast cancer but refused to let that stop her from working for the police. After not seeing her mother for several years, Valerie was forced to move back in with her during her fight with cancer. While living with her mother, they began to deal with the truth of the past. Eventually Valerie and her mother moved to Mazatlan, Mexico in 2004 to get away from her sisters who felt Valerie had too much influence on their mother. Moving became the answer to her problems. Her mother died in 2006 and Valerie continues to live in Mazatlan with no intention of returning to the US. Valerie wrote the book Celebrate the Dandelions at the request of her mother. She spent two years writing the book after her mother's death. Valerie also studies art at the Angela Peralta School of Fine arts near her home and many of her paintings have been purchased and adorn the walls in homes in Australia, New Zealand, England, and the United States.

Smashwords Interview

Where did you grow up, and how did this influence your writing?
I grew up in Seattle, Washington in 1945. This was during a time when abuse was NEVER talked about and considered a family problem. My family refused to acknowledge the abuse, allowing it to continue. My mother turned a blind eye to the problem and I was left to raise myself. Realizing I was a child raising a child continues to amaze me. The fact that I survived to write a book about it, surprises me even more.
When did you first start writing?
Two weeks after my mother's death in May of 2004. She wanted me to write my story but the terrible relationship we had prevented me from agreeing to her request. I told her I could never write a book about my childhood because I would have to portray her as the terrible mother that she was. She laughed and said, "I was a terrible mother, so get over it." I eventually agreed to write the book, but only after she passed away. She passed away the day I agreed to write the book.
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Books

Celebrate the Dandelions
Price: $4.95 USD. Words: 93,830. Language: American English. Published: March 30, 2015. Categories: Nonfiction » Relationships & Family » Abuse / general
(5.00 from 8 reviews)
Celebrate the Dandelions is written from the POV of the child as the abuse occurs, not from the therapist's couch thirty years later. The reader is taken on a roller coaster ride of emotions as she deals with the abuse and her family's refusal to acknowledge it. Diagnosed with PTSD she gets the help she has been looking for only to learn she has breast cancer. Material suitable for young adults.

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Smashwords book reviews by Valerie

  • Snapper-fish Harry and other Stories on March 23, 2015

    This is a marvelous collection of three delightfully different stories. I would not hesitate to recommend them to schools as excellent reading material for young children. They are full of colorful imagery that is assured to delight children of all ages. Marion Day is an excellent writer and I look forward to reading more of her books.
  • Farty-farty Flame-flame and Other Stories on March 23, 2015

    Just the title of Farty-farty Flame-flame and the name of Horonchie the earthworm made me giggle. Rufus Rupert Remington, the demanding little boy with the devil in his eye is a wonderful teaching story about the importance of being polite. As I read these delightful stories, I wished I had more like these to use as bedtime stories for my children when they were still very young. I highly recommend this series for all parents of little children. I enjoyed them very much. They would make a wonderful birthday or Christmas gift for mother of young children.
  • I Shouldn't Be Alive on May 31, 2015

    I SHOULDN’T BE ALIVE - Boar Attack I found this awesome. I know nothing about hunting but have gained a new respect for anyone brave enough to take on a live bore, an animal I have never seen -– and never want to see. Marion does a superb job bringing her stories to life and takes the reader on a wild and frightening journey.
  • Crooked Toes on May 31, 2015

    CROOKED TOES Being born in the US we are taught at a very young age that hunting is cruel and to be avoided, I was both impressed and surprised at how much I enjoyed this story. I discovered hunters possess a true respect and a love of the bush hunting are qualities every true hunter possesses. The love and compassion they have for each other and their dogs is inspiring.
  • Revenge of the Dogs on May 31, 2015

    REVENGE OF THE DOGS – One of Marion’s best so far. The imagery in this one stayed with me through the night. It is beyond awesome and filled with scary, terrifying, and all too real horror of angry dogs out for revenge. I would enthusiastically recommend this story to everyone, both young and old.
  • Critter on May 31, 2015

    I fell in love with Critter and when a story brings tears to my eyes, you know it is good. I love Marion's writing and this is one of her best. What I love about her work is that many may be written for young adults, but believe me when I say adults will enjoy them too.