I became an author without ever having had any desire to write!
Let me explain: I was a Psychotherapist in private practice and busy, but always short on time or money due to the labour intensive nature of the work. I meditated about how to get more money and the "answer" came back "write the book". Well, what to write? I had read you should write about what you know so I started to try to convey all that I had learnt in 20 years of my professional life!
It took me six yeaers! It was a long time before I found "my voice" - my style. Chatty rather than clinical as I believe in trying to connect with people. I literally had to screw up all my courage to start writing as it was a new world to share my thoughts with people I did not know.
My most important book "Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth" was started on a bit of chip paper in a car park! I made lots of notes on scraps of paper and eventually orgainised them and pulled it all together and that was how this particular book was born!
I was asked to write "Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection" and that too is based on working with hundreds of individuals and couples.
"Sexual Abuse & Incest" and "Physical and Emotional Abuse Hurt the World as Well as The Child" are two of the twenty self-help e-books now available in my Little Book Series of Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth.
I have 7 rescue cats and adore all cats so when I was wanting an idea to help fund raise for cat rescue groups I wrote "Harry's Home! A Cat Compendium". If you love cats too this is the book for you!
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Obsession can look like passion so be careful when getting into a new relationship. I'll be talking in terms of a hetro-sexual relationship. Yes, gay relationships can be passionate or obsessive.
In the early stages of a relationship it is naturally intense and that passion feels wonderful. A relationship needs to deepen and will naturally move from intense to a less passionate encounter.
When a man makes a woman feel wonderful it is very seductive. You can get carried along by those feelings.
I would suggest you also need to take a look at his personal characteristics before going to bed, living together or marrying. Underneath that charm can be someone who will want to control your life and if you become not so easy to manipulate then domestic violence can ensue.
Anger is a normal and healthy expression of feelings. It is what you do with that anger that makes it positive or negative. Violence is a negative expression of anger. You can learn to turn your angry feelings into pro-active action as the anger is an indicator that something needs to change in your life. Under anger there is usually sadness and emotional pain. Recognise this?
Do you feel anxious? Tense? Worried? It in itself will not allow you to deal with whatever the situation is that is making you feel that way.
Sometimes it feels as if only you can worry enough you can change the situation. It simply does not work.
One of the saddest situations in counselling that I experienced was when a couple came in to my office with one of them saying he/she drinks too much. The other person would exclaim "My Drinking Isn't A Problem!". It usually became apparent that it was one of the problems the couple were struggling with in their relationship. An alcoholic's prime relationship is with the alcohol not a person.
When the word rape is said a chill probably goes through every woman due to the horror that it is. By identifying some sexual abuse as assault it may be technically more accurate, but it loses the impact of the word rape. When that impact is lost, in my opinion, the terror is watered down and it let's society think it is not as dastardly a deed. Whatever you call it there is a life ruined.
When you hit a child it hurts. What people do not see is the emotional pain underneath the physical pain. The assumption is that the child's alright because it just carries on living as best it can. Children are desperate to please the 'Gods' that they believe adults are. If they act out they can frequently expect further abuse. Emotional pain may leave no physical marks - the damage is there
Hugs make it more difficult for you to then hurt the person you have just hugged, I would say. If you have taken personal responsibility for your behaviour then you have emotional wealth. Being emotionally wealthy means that you have compassion, integrity and serenity - not just being in a peaceful place, serenity of the soul. Emotional wealth changes the world - one person at a time.