I have been told I have a gift for making complicated matters simple while not making simple matters overly complicated. I have two books out. "Would You Meet Me Halfway?" looks into the mysterious and often confusing nature of men and women, but is easy to read and more than willing to surprise you. "Psychotherapy In Ordinary Language" offers an easy way to understand to organize the various approaches to psychotherapy.
I am the principle author of the "Romeo and Juliet effect" research, which suggests that interfering parents can briefly intensify feelings of love in a relationship. I have produced several anxiety reduction trainings, including "Personal Shielding to Deflect Hostility," "Confidence Training for Tests," and "Blast Past Road Rage." I work closely with my co-author, Nancy Ann Davis, Ph.D., who is also my wife. We met in Boulder while working on a relationship research project, and moved in together (ops). We married, and raised three children in the slow lane in East Tennessee before moving back to Colorado. Website: http://www.peacewithmyself.com
What do you feel is your most outstanding quality as a psychologist and writer on relationships.
It is said that there are two sides to every controversy, your own side and something else off in the haze that makes no sense. In my work with couples, I have trained myself to see how each side of a relationship makes sense, and to show each partner how the other makes sense. And from there, it is a much easier job to find ways for each to concede something, and meet halfway.
What do your fans mean to you?
As a marriage counselor, I see so many individuals fighting each other for a fair deal, who have no reasonable standard for what a fair deal should look like. Some concede where they should make a stand, and many see only their own interests, run over their partners, and never concede. My fans, at least the few I have, are a chance for me to do some good and help a few readers gauge what is right and fair, and live better together.
Who's right? What's fair? Are men and women really that different, and if so, where do we compromise? Would You Meet Me Halfway? shines a flashlight on the power struggles between men and women, revealing one misconception after another and willing to surprise you. The authors are also masters of understanding miscommunications, and show how to see through the confusion and navigate around it
The foundation in ordinary language and common sense builds upon our existing competencies, and is used to integrate theoretical formulations. The guidelines specify the tasks of therapy, and integrate the various techniques by which the objectives might be accomplished. Psychotherapy, like other activities, is a sequence of intentional actions meant to accomplish specifiable objectives.