Known as “The Intimacy Officer”, I am Eden Sterlington. As President/CEO of Sterlington International, Inc., I lead a company dedicated to long-term, substantive life enrichment. Our mission is to help Baby Boomers avoid the tragedy and pain of lost intimacy in their love relationships. A disturbing trend is becoming more prevalent. Unions of 20 years or longer are falling apart at the seams for no particular reason. Usually, there’s no big dramatic relationship breach. I usually hear things like “we just grew apart”, “the children are grown now and we’ve changed too much”, “I look across my pillow and I don’t recognize the stranger laying next to me”. This “reasoning” is driving people to divorce court with increasing frequency.
I personally do not believe that divorce is the only option for this type of disconnect. Most of these couples aren’t abusive. There’s nothing heinous going on. They just spent so much time going through the motions that they don’t know what else to do. Or they think it’s too hard to do something new; that they’re too old to change. The fact is nothing could be further from the truth. Couples don’t have to either endure eachother or divorce. There are some very easy, practical, right-now things that people can do to build new connections to eachother and literally be in love again. Notice I did not say “fall” in love again. Nor did I say rekindle, rejuvenate, restore, or renew the love they had before. That is an unrealistic and impossible expectation.
However, to choose to begin to relate to eachother as two adults who have changed greatly is another thing entirely. As the “Intimacy Officer”, I support people in taking conscious, adult action toward a conscious, adult commitment to be eachother’s best friends and greatest supporters as they start their life journeys anew from where they are. I am not a therapist. I am a Relationship Advisor, a leading authority on making lasting relationships. I created the ‘SatisFillment’ technology to address this growing need among my peers. I am a contributing authority on ‘Love Detour’, ‘Flagler Hill’, and ‘Black Doctor’ websites. For further enrichment and encouragement, I will be personally reaching out through many different avenues, in many different formats. Please join my email family to stay updated.
Your comments, your wisdom, your vulnerability are all safe here. Anonymity is the rule unless you expressly give permission otherwise. I look so forward to sharing with you, especially with my men. Nothing personal ladies, but we are generally accustomed to engaging in a forum such as this. My men may need a little extra encouraging. I hope that you will help me with that ladies. Our beloved men need our support. Many of them are living lives of silent desperation and going to early graves because they don’t have a place to be complete – a place where they don’t have to feel embarrassed to express fear; feel threatened because they grieve; feel emasculated because they don’t always know exactly what to do and they get overwhelmed, too. Fellas, this will be that kind of place for you. ‘The Intimacy Officer’ is your ally, not your adversary. I look forward to being of value to your journey.
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