Peter Oxley


A wedding speech veteran with over 25 years of public speaking experience, Peter Oxley has drawn on extensive experience presenting in a variety of situations, as well as the secrets of the professionals, to write a book which is relevant to all wedding speakers - father of the bride, mother of the bride, groom, bride, best man, maid of honour and bridesmaids.

An author of fiction as well as non-fiction, with The Infernal Aether, the first in a series about demons in Victorian London, now for sale at online retailers.

Smashwords Interview

What motivated you to write a "how to" book about wedding speeches?
It all started when I had a hectic year in which I got married and then (less than three months later) was best man at another wedding. I remember talking to the other speechmakers and comparing notes - about being nervous, not knowing what to say or how to say it...

I've always been a sucker for "how to" books and I set about trying to find one that would help us all, but couldn't find one which did what I was looking for - something practical, covering all of the concerns we had, and not just a glorified joke book. Having wasted forever scouring the bookshops and websites, I finally admitted defeat - there was a book in my head which didn't seem to exist! The final straw was when I read the foreword to one book where the author spoke about how it's not unusual to feel nervous before doing a speech and that he'd been so nervous that he'd not done a speech at his own wedding! If someone like that can write a book, I thought, then I certainly can - and The Wedding Speech Manual was born!

I've always enjoyed helping people and this has been a great way for me to do so - when I get feedback from people saying how the book has helped them (as I did the other day, on Twitter), it really does make my day!
What's your worst public speaking experience?
I remember it well - too well! It was at High School and I'd agreed to go into a class to talk to them about Equal Opps. I was incredibly nervous and it showed - and during the course of those ten minutes or so (which felt like about ten hours) I committed every public speaking sin there is. Looking down, not making eye contact, telling them that I'd understand if they were bored because (gulp) it was all a bit boring...!

My initial response to that experience was to run and hide from any other opportunities to speak in front of people, but a few years later I was sent on a presentation skills course, which finally boosted up my confidence - and I've not looked back since!
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