Zari is a Freelance Writer/Author (and single mom) who resides with her son in sunny Tucson, AZ. Born and raised in Rhode Island, Zari, then an aspiring journalist, graduated from Rhode Island College with a B A in Mass Media Communications/English and headed off from the ocean state for a life in the Southwest.
In 2005, when her son's diagnosis with child-onset schizophrenia changed everything, Zari set aside the executive rat race in lieu of a home-based career as a Freelance Writer. A leap of faith that could have gone either way, the choice to work from home was meant-to-be and she has never looked back.
Motivated by the success of When Love Is a Lie, Zari has since published three additional books about narcissism in relationships - Stop Spinning, Start Breathing, a journal-style workbook about narcissist abuse recovery, Narcissist Free: A Survival Guide for the No-Contact Break-Up, and When Evil Is a Pretty Face, for male victims of female narcissists. In addition, she will be publishing a memoir about her son's life and recording a podcast series based on her books about narcissism.
What do your fans mean to you?
My "fans" are amazing but I'd rather refer to them as friends because that's what they really are. On my blog, thenarcissisticpersonality.com, I receive literally hundreds of "letters" from readers in the comment section under each article and I answer each and every one. I've been corresponding with many of them for several years and feel like as if I know them so well. I also provide phone consultations and, therefore, have actually had the privilege of speaking with many readers one-on-one. Since writing the books, this interaction has been incredible and I am grateful for it every day.
When we're involved with a narcissist, as most of us know, our lives are practically interchangeable. Unless a person has actually experienced the craziness of this type of emotional abuse, they can never understand. For this reason, I created the books and the blog. To me, recovery from narcissist abuse is a team effort and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world!
What are you working on next?
Right now I'm working on a short non-fiction tentatively titled "Narcissism in a Nutshell: 13 Telltale Signs That the Person You Love is an Emotional Manipulator". Basically, it's a quick study guide intended to confirm what a victim already knows to be true. I am also finishing up a book about my son who was diagnosed with schizophrenia at the age of ten. He's 26-years old now and he's the most amazing person I know. This book is the story of our journey together but it's mostly about his amazing awesomeness:)
Finally...a book written specifically for men who have endured the verbal (and often physical) abuse of female narcissistic partners. When Evil Is a Pretty Face is a unique compilation of the best content from Zari Ballard's popular books about narcissism in relationships with additional chapters that speak specifically to a man's experience with a female narcissistic partner.
The characteristics of the narcissistic personality are such that once we finally bridge a connection to our partner's behaviors, there's no denying that we've found the answer. It's what we choose to do with this information going forward that will be key to our recovery from narcissist abuse. From the author of When Love Is a Lie, this recovery workbook will get you back on the road to normal.
Developing a codependency to a partner who has a narcissistic or psychopathic personality will cause nothing but turmoil in our lives. We stay in the relationship, thinking that we can "fix" this person and love them out of their bad behavior, but the truth is that narcissists - just like sociopaths and psychopaths - can never be fixed...not with love, therapy, or any magic pill.