No Tears for my Father: Part 2: Learning to Love Myself

Learning to Love Myself is the continuation of the true story of incest told in the author's award-winning memoir, "No Tears for my Father". This book is not just a celebration of rebirth and recovery after abuse, but a love story: the love of a husband and wife; the love of children, and that love so important to healing: love of self. More

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About Viga Boland

Viga Boland is the author of 4 books, three of which are memoirs based on the childhood sexual abuse (incest) to which she was subjected from the ages of 11-24. She kept the abuse secret for nearly 45 years, not even telling her husband and family until she was 65. On hearing the details, her small but supportive family encouraged her to write her true story to help other victims of incest realize they are not alone and to increase awareness of this much denied form of sexual abuse. The result of the encouragement was her first memoir, self-published in 2013, "NO TEARS FOR MY FATHER", for which she received a Gold Medal in the 2014 Readers Favourites Awards.

Today, at 70 years of age, Viga Boland is a popular speaker at conferences on Sexual Violence. She also blogs and podcasts on sexual abuse, (i-Tunes, Stitcher, along with teaching memoir writing in her local library. She is also devoted to helping other memoir writers increase their visibility via her blogs and podcasts at

Viga's 2nd memoir, "Learning to Love Myself" is centered on her story of healing and self-discovery as someone worthy of love. This book is an uplifting and enjoyable read. The 3rd memoir in this series on sexual abuse, "Voice from an Urn", answers questions about Viga's mother's role, if she had one, in the incest. You can listen to sections of this book via her "VIGALAND" podcast. (See Viga's personal website for the links on iTunes and Stitcher)

Viga's other book. a semi-memoir, is a very humorous account of her 4-5 years in a Catholic High School in the early 60's. "The Ladies of Loretto", at this time, is only available from Viga's personal website:

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Not every victim of incest gets as lucky as Viga Boland, the author of the gold medal winning book, "No Tears for my Father" did. She found a good man who loved her unconditionally, gave her complete freedom to be herself, and over 45 years, learned to love herself. Watch the book trailer and read Part 2 of her memoir, "Learning to Love Myself". Only $2.99 at Smashwords.

About the Series: No Tears for my Father
A trilogy that covers over 50 years in the life of the author, from the time she was a victim of incest at the hands of her biological father beginning at age 11, to her life today. The first memoir, "No Tears for my Father" earned a gold medal in the 2014 Readers Favorite Book Awards. This is the most graphic and disturbing section in this memoir of childhood sexual abuse. The second book, "Learning to Love Myself", is a gentler read showing the rebirth and recovery of a woman after sexual abuse but still touching on the long term effects on all family members and generations. The final book, "Voice from an Urn" is the story of the incest but told, this time, through the author's mother's voice. It answers questions readers raised after reading "No Tears for my Father. All three books move along swiftly, but engage readers both emotionally and intellectually. It is not enough to read just one. Only reading all three books is fully satisfying.

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Cheri Arlenghi reviewed on Oct. 17, 2014
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Having read 'No Tears For My Father' in little over a day, I was eager to purchase and read 'Learning to Love Myself'.

I certainly wasn't disappointed!!

Viga writes in a style that makes me feel she is in the room chatting with me, sharing her ups and downs, (more ups than downs in this book I'm pleased to say) over a coffee or several.

Her ability to show how you CAN overcome the most painful experience is more than admirable!!

I so admire Viga, for her openness, her sense of humour, her strength, her writing style, her ability to love , (others, as well as herself), her friendliness, her help............I could go on!!

I have worked with people in a similar situation to Viga, and only wish I had come across both of her books then, because they would most certainly have helped fellow survivors to move on with their lives far more quickly!!

So I would like to say a big 'thank you' to Viga, and to her wonderful family, for allowing me into your world.

(Would love another book too!! )

(Forget to mention that I did no housework at all the day the book arrived!! I read it from cover to cover from the moment it dropped through the letterbox until late evening. It was so engrossing!)
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