Valerie Maholmes is a psychologist, educator, sought after motivational speaker and voice over artist. She writes and speaks about hope, optimism, and overcoming adversity. Dr. Val, as her friends call her, is a proud alumna of Montclair State, Howard, and Fairfield Universities respectively. She is an advocate for children and families and believes in the power of the relationship bond in family, friendships, business and in love!
When did you first start writing?
I have always had a passion and a love for words. From my earliest point of remembrance, I've wanted to be a writer of some sort. I love storytelling--whether fact or fiction. To me, that's what writing is all about--Conveying a message, communicating emotions, sharing thoughts, ideas and information. I've spent most of my career doing academic writing. This is one of my first forays into writing for broader audiences. Let me know what you think!
What's the story behind your latest book?
Ah... the story behind my latest book. Well, I encountered someone I know who experienced an unexpected end to her relationship. She was distraught and looked as though she hadn't slept in days. When I asked her what the matter was, she told me a story of deception and outright trickery. I was broken-hearted for her. Later, another friend told me a similar story about how her relationship ended. Unfortunately, she didn't know it had ended --someone else told her that the person she thought was the love of her life already had a wife! Needless to say, I was infuriated by this story. I was even more concerned about these women--how they were feeling and what they were doing as a consequence of their breakups. Recognizing that these were not isolated incidents--indeed many women have had similar experiences--I felt I needed to say something on behalf of women who feel that they couldn't or shouldn't express their feelings or distress. I hope my book gives women (and men too) a healthy way to express their distress, manage disappointment and move on with their lives.
Post-Dramatic Relationship Syndrome is a term I've coined to describe what we do and how we feel in the aftermath of a dramatic relationship. This fun and easy-to-read self-help book gives humorous anecdotes, guides for reflection and action planning to help readers achieve personal and spiritual renewal--and most importantly, to chart a course toward living and loving in the drama free zone!